Knowing when to move on

Knowing when to move on

While some people may think that it’s holding on that makes one strong; sometimes it’s letting go...

Knowing when to move onWhile success of a marriage is extremely important, more important than that is your peace of mind. If you feel that your marriage or relationship is on a downward spiral and is causing you to feel depressed, unhappy and even suicidal, then it is important to take some time out to analyse your relationship. Once you have a clear picture of what's going on and how you feel, it is important to rationally communicate your thoughts and feelings to your partner. The emphasis here is on rationally!

After communicating

If even after your communicating, he or she does not take steps to keep you happy/ work on the relationship/ or agree to see a professional, then start to seriously consider moving on. More often than not, people tend to stay in bad relationships for fear of not finding a better one. However, this is the biggest mistake that you can make. To quote from Helen Keller, "When one door of happiness closes, another opens; but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one which has been opened for us."

Related: 5 ways to communicate better with your spouse

Take stock of other relationships in life

Besides looking at your marriage, it is also important to take stock of other relationships in your life as well. Make sure that you are living life according to your likes and dislikes and are not giving too much of yourself without receiving anything in return. If a relationship causes you more harm than good, then it is time for you to let go of that relationship and start working on those that are good for you. Alot of people suffer from relationships that are more demanding than giving, and this ends up breeding negative thoughts and bitter feelings.

Related: Taking stock of your relationship

Recognizing and accepting

Acknowledging that a relationship has failed does not make you a failure but only gives you an opportunity to learn from it and cherish those that are successful. While some people may think that it’s holding on that makes one strong; sometimes it’s letting go...

Related: Essential life skills all women should know

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Sandra Ong

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