My mother-in-law is a control freak. What should I do?
Read on to learn how to be more confident in dealing with a difficult mother-in-law.
While some couples may be lucky enough to have wonderful in-laws but you just had to be stuck with an overbearing, control freak for a mother-in-law. The woman seems to be adamant in making your marriage shaky by offering unsolicited advices, sending numerous looks of disapproval, dismissing you through a sigh or an eyebrow raise, or by just being condescending and superior. It drives you crazy but sadly, you cannot get rid of her.
Take solace in the fact that you are not alone! Difficult mothers-in-law, sadly, are quite common.
In order to survive, here are some tips on how to deal with a difficult mother-in-law.
Twist the criticisms
Every time your difficult mother-in-law visits, you are sure to hear a lot of comments and criticisms. To make light of the situation, take her negative comments and interpret it into a more positive one. If she complains about how bad your home cooked meals taste, take it as a reminder to try and master other recipes that her child would love. If your difficult mother-in-law refuses to call you by name and resorts to calling you “girl” or even “hey”, let it go. At least she didn’t call you some other foul name, right?
Let your spouse deal with her
Sometimes, it is easier to let your spouse deal with his/her mother. This avoids added animosity between the two of you while giving them a chance to bond as mother and child.
Try not to take it personally
When it comes to dealing with your difficult mother-in-law, try not to take things at heart if she is being hurtful. The issues lie with her and not you. Be the better person and don’t be rude. Maintain the peace by keeping your mouth shut even if she is trying hard to bait you into fighting with her. If you cannot stand her, have minimal contact by leaving the room when she is around.
Respond if needed
If your difficult mother-in-law is starting to get abusive, this is the time to address the issues. Avoid confrontations but when push comes to shove, don’t be a doormat. Call on her attitude and behavior if she is way out of line. Doing this may cause a full-blown fight and increase the rift between the two of you so try to pick your fights.
Look at the bright side
You may have a difficult mother-in-law but because of her, you have a wonderful spouse and beautiful children. Dealing with her is just a small price to pay compared with what you have.
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