What made them finally split?
After a whirlwind on-and-off seven-year relationship and a fairytale wedding, the saga of Vanness Wu and Arissa Cheo divorce is now final.
The Taiwanese actor-singer and the Singaporean socialite tied the knot in November 2013, but in less than a year their marriage started to get rocky. According to Jayne Stars, the couple were constantly quarrelling and quite often publicly on social media.
Rumours started soon after that the couple had gone their separate ways. But they were still legally married in accordance to Singapore law. Those who wish to divorce each other may only do so after three years of marriage.
On top of the three years, the couple must also live apart from each other, in separate residences. A valid reason for the divorce must also be agreed upon by both parties.
If one party disagrees, one more year would be added to the period of separation. This makes a total of four years, before a request for divorce can be filed.
Vanness Wu and Arissa Cheo Divorce: After 3 Years of Separation
Vanness Wu and Arissa Cheo divorce papers cite a clash in personalities, irreconcilable differences, and Cheo’s lack of support for Wu’s career. | Picture from @xarissaxcheox
The three-year separation officially ended in May this year. Divorce papers were sent to Arissa, but it was later sent back unsigned because she disagreed with the terms. Vanness sent a revised copy after amendments were made.
Vanness Wu and Arissa Cheo divorce papers cite a clash in personalities, irreconcilable differences, and Cheo’s lack of support for Wu’s career.
Arissa issued a statement through her lawyer, stating that though she wants to maintain their relationship, it’s now impossible to mend their ties. Living together has caused unhappiness for the both of them, and it was decided that they will end their relationship.
Cheo’s lawyer told Stomp:
“My client does not believe in divorce but at this point, she is left with no other alternative.
“She has worked hard for this marriage but given the unhappy state of affairs, she has decided to end it as she no longer wishes to continue to live in hurt and pain.”
5 Warning Signs You Are in a Troubled Marriage
This picture was taken during their honeymoon in London, before things got rocky, resulting in Vanness Wu and Arissa Cheo divorce. | Picture from @xarissaxcheox
There were many reasons surrounding the saga of Vanness Wu and Arissa Cheo divorce. Despite ample time during their on and off 7-year relationship to build a solid foundation together, still warning signs started to appear less than a year into their marriage.
1. You fight about everything
And you fight about the same thing over and over again. There is no more patience to put up with the other’s imperfections. If you’re not bringing up old arguments, you seem to have no trouble finding new topics to fight about. It could start with something small, like who’s always right or who is better. Then it could escalate to more important things like fidelity or who should change.
2. You no longer make decisions together
A marriage is a partnership. It is two lives becoming one, therefore deciding equally and together on how to move forward is a given. The moment one disregards their partner when making decisions – especially on important matters – this is a red flag.
3. You don’t respect one another
Happy times before Vanness Wu and Arissa Cheo divorce. | Picture from @xarissaxcheox
While it is very tempting to rant about your problems on social media and about your better half’s shortcomings, it shows your lack of respect for him or her. The mature way is to sit down and have a heart-to-heart talk. Besides, since when has airing dirty laundry in public been beneficial?
4. You don’t trust one another
Is your trust broken because your partner is no longer sharing information with you about his career, personal problems or just anything in general? Are you getting second-hand news via social media? When you become the last to know, this shows a huge breakdown in communication. This could damage your emotional bond and trust for one another.
5. You don’t make time for each other
Celeb or not, all relationships need work. This means making time to build new experiences together despite busy schedules and work. How solid your relationship is depends strongly on how much you invest in it. If you truly value your relationship with your partner, you would put effort into it.