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Understanding Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA) in Kids

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Understanding Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA) in Kids

Is your child struggling with pathological demand avoidance? Learn how to support them effectively.

So, let’s talk about Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA). You might have heard about it, or maybe it’s a term that’s new to you. Either way, understanding what PDA is all about can shed light on some challenging behaviours seen in children, especially those diagnosed with autism spectrum disorder (ASD).

 

What Exactly is Pathological Demand Avoidance?

When we say PDA, we’re not just talking about kids being stubborn or difficult. It’s a bit more complex than that. Pathological Demand Avoidance refers to a pattern of behaviour where children go to great lengths to avoid or resist anything they perceive as a demand. It’s like they have an internal alarm that goes off whenever someone asks them to do something.

 

Spotting PDA Behaviour

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You know those everyday tasks that seem simple? Like getting dressed, or doing homework? For kids with PDA, these tasks can feel like climbing Mount Everest. They might only do them when they’re personally motivated, making it frustrating for parents who know they’re capable of more.

 

What Triggers PDA?

Now, let’s dig into what triggers this avoidance behaviour. It’s not just about being stubborn; there’s often anxiety and inflexibility bubbling under the surface. Kids with PDA may struggle to understand social expectations or anticipate demands, which ramps up their stress levels.

 

PDA Traits Beyond Autism

Here’s the thing: PDA isn’t exclusive to kids with ASD. More and more families are recognising these traits in children across the board, regardless of whether they have an autism diagnosis. It’s like PDA has its own unique fingerprint, cutting across different intellectual abilities.

 

Working Through PDA Behaviours

So, how do we deal with PDA? Traditional approaches might not cut it. Instead of butting heads with kids, it’s about finding what motivates them. By tapping into their interests and incorporating them into interventions, we can spark engagement and cooperation.

 

Nurturing Adaptive Skills

Rather than labelling avoidance as “pathological,” let’s focus on building adaptive skills. These are the skills that help kids navigate the demands of daily life, setting them up for independence and success. It’s about empowering them to tackle challenges head-on, one step at a time.

 

Embracing Flexibility

Flexibility is key when it comes to PDA. Programs like Unstuck and on Target are all about teaching kids how to roll with the punches and adapt to change. By giving them the tools to come up with alternative plans and make choices, we’re helping them thrive in a demanding world.

So, there you have it – a glimpse into the world of Pathological Demand Avoidance. It’s complex, it’s challenging, but with the right support and understanding, kids with PDA can conquer mountains – one step at a time.

 

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