Infidelity has long been thought to be a gendered phenomenon, with men being more likely than women to cheat. Recent studies, however, show that the gender gap in infidelity is closing. Approximately 20% of men and 20% of women admit to cheating in their current relationship. Here are three reasons why women cheat and what can be done to avoid it.
3 Reasons Why Women Cheat
-
Emotional Undernourishment
According to a study published in Trends in Psychology, emotional malnourishment is one of the primary reasons why women cheat. Women try to fill emotional voids by communicating, empathising, respecting, devoting, and supporting others. Emotional dissatisfaction can be as painful as sexual dissatisfaction.
To avoid emotional cheating, couples should prioritise basic ingredients for a happy relationship such as respect, support, and quickly repairing ruptures. According to research, shared meditation can also be an effective tool against infidelity. Over time, meditating with your partner can increase feelings of closeness and willingness to disclose intimate details.
-
Sexual Inconsistency
Sex is just as important for women as it is for men. Lack of sexual ‘thrill’ that may have been the norm early in the relationship can entice women to look elsewhere for it. Sexual mindfulness is one way to make sex life more enjoyable and meaningful.
Incorporating sexual mindfulness into your sex life is a powerful way to increase pleasure and meaning. A recent study published in Sexual and Relationship Therapy by the authors describes how the principles of awareness, curiosity, and presence of mind can work wonders for couples who feel their spark is fading.
Image source: iStock
How to practise sexual mindfulness
The authors recommend the following techniques for practising sexual mindfulness:
- Allowing yourself to be judged and accepting that your partner is drawn to more than just your body, but also your sense of humour, ideas, and emotions.
- Discussing your insecurities and devising a plan to eliminate these distractions, as emotional intimacy is the ultimate goal of sex.
- Asking questions such as “”How does my partner smell or taste?””, “What is their skin’s temperature and texture like?”, “How does their voice sound?”, “What do I think when I am touched?””, and “What thoughts come to mind when I am in the embrace of my partner?””to engage in mindful sex and savour the pleasurable moments.
-
Unequal Division of Labour
Image source: iStock
An unequal division of household labour may explain women’s lack of sexual desire. Being open to making changes that make your partner feel more supported in the home can reignite your wife or girlfriend’s interest. Communication is essential in relationships, and couples should look for ways to share household chores.
Couples can build a strong and healthy relationship that is less likely to be threatened by infidelity by prioritising emotional and sexual intimacy and communicating openly about needs and feelings.
