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I read somewhere that in every life, a little rain must fall to make it more interesting and meaningful. But I caused a thunderstorm in my husband’s life three years ago. A thunderstorm that he has no clue about.
My husband is a businessman and I’m a piano teacher. We have 3 boys and 2 girls. The children are very close in age which is no surprise as I was popping them out yearly. By the time my fifth arrived, I knew I had enough. I begged my husband to go for a vasectomy but being the pig-headed fellow that he is, he refused. I realised that birth control pills were going to be the only things that could save my sanity.
However, we all know that pills, condoms and other methods of birth control are only able to help 99%. With the kind of luck I’m strapped with, that 1% turned out to be my 6th pregnancy.
At first, I had no idea I was pregnant. My husband and I are social butterflies and almost every Saturday, we are at a dinner function or party or some sort of get-together. Anyway, after one such Saturday, we were both a little tipsy from the drinks served and my husband’s good friend dropped us off. After checking (or at least that’s what I think we did) on the children, we managed to get onto the second floor and turn the corner into our bedroom. One thing led to another and soon we were asleep with the occasional teenage giggling between us.
Around 2 months later, I started throwing up regularly and feeling moody. Now I’ve had this 5 times before so I knew where this was headed. Nevertheless, I took a pregnancy test to confirm. Massive hysteria upon realisation!! I couldn’t believe it was happening for the sixth time! I still remember my maid staring at me as I cursed in different dialects (thankfully my husband and children were not at home). I started to cry uncontrollably and hit my stomach. This shouldn’t and couldn’t be happening. I barely had enough time for myself with the 5 monsters already present!
I knew my husband was going to be adamant about keeping the child if I told him. He always had mentioned that 6 was his lucky number and always prayed we would have another child just to round up the 5 to a 6. Also, being a staunch Catholic and a big believer in big families, there was no way he was going to give this child up for adoption or anything else. I knew I didn’t want this child and I had to get rid of it myself. So I stood at the top of my stairs and looked down. I placed myself at the tip of the top stair and closed my eyes. Before my body could move backwards, I stopped. I wasn’t that strong.
Then, I ran like a maniac around my house, purposely bumping into things like the sharp end of the table, the edge of my piano, etc. The only thing that got me was a bruise on the shin and the family dog racing after me thinking I was playing with it. After colliding with a vase and having the glass shatter all around me, I came to my senses. This foolish behaviour would have to stop and I seriously had to think of a way to get out of this.
Searching For A Clinic
So after going through a few places that offered abortion services, I chose the one furthest from home. I had initially considered going across the causeway to have it done but the hassle of explaining my whereabouts to everyone made me drop that plan. It was just too risky.
It was a Monday morning. I still remember the day clearly because I woke up feeling like I’ve never felt before. Rejuvenated, happy and just full of enthusiasm for the day. Until I realised this was the day I was going to kill my baby.
I wore my favourite dress and caught a cab to the clinic. It felt a little surreal and almost like a twisted version of ‘Rosemary’s Baby’. After the procedural signature signings were over, I was wheeled away. The word, ‘freedom’ was flashing in my mind in neon lights.
After what seemed like a trip to the unknown and back, I woke up with traces of anaesthesia. Resting for a while, I managed to groggily hop into a cab and go home. At home, I instructed the kids and the maid to leave me alone as I was having a bad case of the flu.
My husband believed the flu lie and the whole house stayed away from me long enough for me to rest. Today I’m a happy mother of 5 healthy children and a contented wife while all are none the wiser about my secret.
Yes, abortion is bad, abortion is cruel but don’t you think bringing a child into this world and neglecting it, is twice as bad? At least this way, the foetus didn’t feel a thing!
*Names have been changed to protect the identity of the writer.
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its not fair to judge someone if ur not in their shoes. as wrong as abortion might be, she made a decision that is right for HER and her FAMILY. so please, all of u who condemned her, look at urselfs first before making judgement. are u so prefect?
Well said Dee!
But for someone who doesnt want to be condemned Martha should have given her statements in a more “humane” way also…Making me want to think this is all a fabrication to stir up controversy on both sides.
And what a timing too! Today UN governments are having talks about legalizing abortion as a woman’s right.
Let us not go after each other’s throats on this.
Let us all think objectively.
If Martha is a real person she should have been also loving to her existing kids for they too have rights and should not be labeled as “monsters” in public.
Also if Martha is truely “Catholic” or Christian in which are the foremost sectors against abortion. She should have known better to go ahead with such and not be remorseful instead of saying rejuvenated as though she came from the spa.
The Catholic and Christian Sectors teaches their members with Concience gripping diligense.
So Martha I guess you are neither in the real sense or is just claiming to be one.
I suggest you do not go back to church because I guess your conscience would soon get the better of you and maybe I would soon read your confessions inside the psycho ward?
There is no factual basis for all your claims and statements.
So I guess this just one big propaganda!
I dare you Martha to go to your National TV for your confession and have your statements cleared.
I have three kids and I already feel like I am dying! I totally understand why you did what you did.
Hugs!
My goodness. Such judgemental and righteous anger, and from Christians. So, where’s that turn the other cheek, and let those who have not sinned cast the first stone?
All damned hypocrites, every single one of you. DAMNED HYPOCRITES.
What’s done cant’ be undone, since u already have so many children, please go for LIGATION! No worries for any unplanned pregnancy!
Furthermore it’s damaging to the woman’s health to go for abortion, there’s risk of womb abortion and we never know what will happen during old age.
Please for goodness’s sake, go FOR LIGATION~~!!!
good more women should take her rights in the third world countries and do as they want and not the demanding husbands i am happy for you
Let us not judge her based on our own values. It’s her right to do what she thinks best for herself and her family. Considering the risks, she’s actually sacrifing her own health for the sake of the future. It’s not fair for us to blame her.. just because she’s a woman, a wife and a mother. No matter what religion or belief u hold on to, a man is responsible to whatever actions his wife and children do. If he is really responsible, why then,didn’t he do his part? Why does it always have to be the wife? Did he ever considered how his wife felt about having another baby? Did he ever shared her stress and anguish in bringing up their children? Was he always there to tend to their night cries and illness? Yes, money and maid is a help but sharing the responsibilty btween your spouse meant a lot more than leaving it to your maid to be solved. To most man, the number of children are like prizes they can brag about. They demand for more but they tend to forget the responsibilities that come with it..
So Martha, get on with your life.Let bygone be bygone.I’m glad that you have a happy life now.
What’s done is done.. Please, take precaution after this.
You shouldnt have said “foetus didnt feel a thing”!
There are so many couples who couldnt conceive, yet you abort and to mention such sentence. Abortion, is not evil… everyone has their own reasons to their action. It is so cruel to say that your foetus will not feel anything!
I againts abortion in any reasons. Coz my children is my top priority. They are the reasons I am breathing and living.. even when they became ‘mosnter’ still, they are my everyday blessed of life.
All these verbal slamming against people being judgmental is dumb. Martha has already judged that another child will just ruin her life. Yes it’s easy to forget the husband is also partly responsible for this but he never suggested killing the child, I’m sure he’ll oppose to it if he had known.
No matter what’s been said, I’m happy to know that Martha will be psychologically haunted by her own killing act, for the rest of her life. It’s inhuman to take the life of others. It brings about God’s wrath and I’m sure He’ll never let you get away with it. Why put God in the picture? Well she never shouldn’t have mentioned about being Catholic in the first place. So this, is a guilty conscience forever etched into her dumb brain. That itself is a gift of curse for you Martha. Congratulations, mother monster. Get yourself ligated u dumb woman!
I believed in whatever God give that is a reason behind. It is not our right to kill the fetus. Although having 5 children is tough, but since already have 5, additional 1 kid is not a big duel. After all it is not financial problem or health matter. It is a mother who just don’t want the baby.
I had a great experience during my pregnancy. Which almost cause me to give up my child. Nonetheless, I sticked on what I’m believe, now I had over come all the difficultive and has a good time.
I still believe GOD give an angel to us for a reason. We must be greatful and accept it.
Comments are everybody rights. What she did is wrong in the eyes of religion. But in human rights, she did what she had to do. For now she is safe. In hereafter she have to pay for her doing. She know that too. Stop commenting and judging her. Give her a break. Enough is enough.
god bless u..no matter how u had already make a decision. what is pass is pass. Rather then later u get crazy or 6 monster…i totally understand how u feel. even i knw abortion is bad.
What’s with all the anti-choice comments?
Killed a life? So, by cleaning and sanitizing your own homes, aren’t you people killing the lives of billions of bacteria? Think again.
i actually wonder how many other can carry their child up to 40 weeks inside their wombs and kill or abandon their infants once they’re delivered. am not a pro abortion nor am against it. i have a 13.5 months baby girl (whom I adore so much) and am expecting a second one this year and already think that 2 is quite enough. so i guess i could imagine and sympathized what a mom of 5 would probably go through.
hey think in her shoes.. if you’ve got 5 children on your heels everyday, wouldn’t you feel the same as what she’s feeling? its 5 children! and you know how children nowadays are. spoil, demanding, strawberry generation… pressure from all these could lead to a unhappy relationship between the parents. so what if you are a holy christian here to condemn her acts? would you be brave enough to bear a sixth child if you were her? think before condemning. would you rather give birth to a child who you will grow to dislike and let the child suffer an unhappy childhood? give her a break, holy people, she’s doing what’s more practical.
Whilst i can understand your point of view, Im not sure if you did the right thing.
Perhaps you should have thought of the consequences -after all, there is a reason why protection is so readily available. Having said that, i acknowledge that fun often gets in the way and at times like those, you dont really think.
But there must be another way to try and set things right. Aborting the baby and then hiding the truth from your husband certainly doesnt seem like the right decision…
seriously, can u think it frm the other way? there are numbers of couples out there trying so hard so hard to conceive but yet they got nothing. u’r blessed with 5+1 n yet u choose to abor him/her away n yet u still hve the cheek to say that ‘the feotus dun feel a thing’?! do u know that the moment u’r preg, the feotus heartbeat is already connected to u! before u went on any abortion did u dic frm the clinic show u series of CDs that tell u how the procedures are like? if ur child is a dummy or retarded, i got nothing much to comments abt ur abortion. seriously, u’r nt fit to be a mother of 5!
Dear Rebecca: Judging from your post you are an uneducated moron. Grow up, learn to spell and write like a civilised person why don’t you, then people might just listen to your point of view.
It’s easy to compose your post in ‘word’, check the spelling and grammar, then post it. Do you want to be taken seriously or don’t you?
at least if u abort you feel sad about that we understand but you feel happy?
i HAVE NEVER SEEN SUCH COLD BLOODED MONSTER LIKE YOU.
I WISH RETRIBUTION GETS TO YOU
whether ruining the child life is all under ur hands
you can change it. nothing is impossible.
Enough with the holier than thou attitudes. What the hell is all your problem?
Cant you see that the woman did the RIGHT Thing. She acted practically!
ANd it’s not like she wanted to get pregnant in the first place. It was an accident. AN unwanted pregnancy. Plus she was on birth control, so she really was acting cautious.
Grow up all of you!
Just like to emphasize the foetus is a life.
So sad that he or she has chosen you as parent.
A child is a gift from God. Why so cruel and deny the rights of the baby.
Ya, talking about human rights, rights, rights, rights…
B***h. No wonder there are 12,000 abortions in Singapore. With women like her…
the foetus didnt feel a thing?! are you human or what?
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wOR1wUqvJS4
the foetus didnt feel a thing?! are you human or what?
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wOR1wUqvJS4
how ridiculous of judgemental people to accuse others of being judgemental! who are we to judge her?! more like, who are you to judge those who condemn her?
some mums have no choice but to abort their babies because of certain health or family reasons. and here, you are blessed with a perfectly healthy child and a stable family. and you chose to abort it? you dont even want to give him or her a chance to live. my heart aches for your child. it all stems from your selfish desire to have more time for yourself. it’s plain selfishness and irrationality on your part. you could have discussed it with your hubby first before you decided to let your ego get over you.
you just do not have the capacity for true motherly love. i pity your other 5 kids too.
I suppose you think that a woman is some kind of baby factory. You speak about irrationality, but you don’t demonstrate that you understand the meaning of the word. What Martha W did was supremely rational, even if you don’t agree with it and I don’t like it, it was a rational and brave action.
Save your pity for yourself, you should take a look in the mirror sometime.
I wish your husband were a more understanding person. It’s not fair that you had to go through with the abortion on your own. No one takes a life lightly, least of all a mother. I know you must have gone through hell. I think it’s a husband’s duty to be by his wife in such circumstances. As to the evil bigots who have condemned you for your brave action, they will get their just desserts one day.
Abortion raises complex ethical issues and cannot be discussed in simple black and white terms, if we are to debate the issues with integrity we must acknowledge that grey areas and questions will abound.
While I am definitely anti abortion, the situations where I think it is permissible is in the cases of potential death (if the mother might die due to the delivery) and in cases of rape.
I understand that Martha didn’t plan on getting pregnant, was even on the pill, and felt hopeless as she couldn’t give up the baby for adoption due to her controlling hubby,…but in this situation it sure seems that she was wrong to have aborted. If I were her and I knew that I had enough of babies, I would have gone for a ligation so I would never be in this situation.
Dear Diana
I agree with much of what you have said in your comment, however…
(1) you say that abortion isn’t a black and white issue, yet you proceed to list the circumstances in which abortion should be permissible. So where are the “grey areas”? Or are all the other circumstances – the ones you haven’t mentioned – “grey areas”?
(2) According to the British National Health Service, “Female sterilisation is more than 99% effective, and only one in 200 women will become pregnant after the operation” And “The Pill is 99% effective at preventing pregnancy”
So you could become pregnant in either case. Never say never.
Don’t judge. As you would not like to be judged yourself
I agree, in everyday life we should try not to judge each other and of course we should always try to see and understand the other person’s point of view, however the point of this type of blog is to elicit comments, views and opinions. It would not be a very interesting or informative blog if people were always non-judgemental and politically correct when giving their opinions and joining in with the debate.
You are really BRAVE to go bear the pain all by yourself and think practically. Life is yours and do what you deem is right. Ignore others comments cos they aren’t you – they can’t imagine the kind of life you’re having with 5 kids in this practical & money-centric world. If anyone reprimand you, ask them to give birth to 6 kids and have a taste of it.
This is a very tough issue indeed. I pray I am never put in this situation.
martha, i so feel you. for those who have been lambasting women who made the choice to abort, screw you. you do not know the kind of circumstances that made them do it. i dod it too. it is a guilt that will stay with me and haunt me to the end of life. not once. not twice. but three times. i believe all of them would have been beautiful kids. but they were an inconvenience. two came right after my first confinement, within months of each other. SCRAPPED. one came after my second child, and when i am just moving up the corporate ladder. SCRAPPED. my husband knew of my decisions, but he didnt have a say in any of them. it is my body, after all. i do cry for them sometimes. now i am on pills and he uses the condom whenever we get a little frisky. i cant afford to carry with me anymore guilt.
I can understand how you feel raising 5 kids. It’s an arduos task indeed. My sister has 6 kids, which are very close in ages. Although she said she is well but I can feel her soul is draining. It seems that she is the only one raising them as her husband is always at work.
You need to replenish oneself and take care of your own well being before you can take care and give love to others. It takes incredible strength to care for others when you are not allowed time to recuperate!
I truly understand the abortion. It’s a dark spot in life that can never be altered. However, for sanity sake, it is a wise decision to make.
Take good care of yourself. May God bless you.
I say for all women who dont want anymore children or any at all should have their uterus remove so then theirs no reasons for anyone’s life to have taken aways because remember we only have one life to live so dont be the person who takes it away. I think if their going to do abortion then right afterwards the doctor should then go ahead and remove the uterus.THEN YOU WILL NEVER HAVE TO WORRY ABOUT IT AGAIN.
There is both right and wrong, in this world where money is everything…cant really blame her as can’t imagine the kind of life you’re having with 5 kids in this practical & money-centric world…But wrong as she can choose to for ligation so she wont have worries for any unplanned pregnancy. No one is perfect, so is really hard to say what’s right and wrong. God will come to take our lives soon as humans are too obsessed with money as rich are getting richer, poor getting poorer.Why didnt the rich shared part of their wealth with the poor or give some to the starving children in Africa? Board of Director wants more money even they have millions, is not enough for them, keep raising fees to make them richer etc…I this big fish eat small fish world, even heartlands grocery store have to fight with big companies like fairprice, shop and save. Globalization is beneficial for companies and businesses, as they can get cheap and capable person anywhere. But for those common people have to fight with other countries people for a job. People are fighting one another for the sake of money, in corporate world climbing the corporate ladder, there’s why that is office politics. Humans are ignorant, money and everything in this physical world is only temporary, you cant bring money when you died and nothing in this world is forever as the only constant is change. Life and death is entwined in the law of duality, where each must coexist together for there to be one. I think humanity is seeking for its own doom as it’s the law of causes and effects.
You say “Why didnt the rich shared part of their wealth with the poor or give some to the starving children in Africa?”
Actually, lots of rich people in the west reguarly give to the starving in Africa. Have you never heard of Live Aid? Or Comic Relief? or Oxfam? There are hundreds of charities as well as individuals in Erope and America that are working hard to help the poor in developing countries. Many corporations, such as Puma, are insisting on using only ‘Fair Trade’ materials in their products. It’ll take time, but we are getting there. Unfortunatley there are still problems with coruption and ignorance, especially where the religion and politics concerned. Unfortunately, both man’s and God’s representitives on Earth are often themselves only in it for the money.
Why is it that everyone is focused on how she should get ligation, remove her uterus, take the pill, do all sorts of things, blame her for the abortion etc? Why is it that it’s not her husbands responsibility to take care of his wife and making sure that she doesn’t have to go through all these by simply going though a vasectomy? because it’s irreversible so men are scared? what about all the things that your wives have to go through because of your cowardliness. where did that vow to protect go?
It’s because in this male dominated world, a woman’s got to act for herself. Most men think that having ‘the snip’ will rob them of their manhood. You might think that being a man means taking reponsibility, but most men think that being a man means being able to get their own way and not think about the consequences.
My mum has 7 children in the span of 10 years. she aborted the 7th fetus and felt completely stricken by guilt, it also almost took her life. So when she was pregnant with the 8th, she decided to keep her. I’m so eternally grateful that she decided to keep me alive(the 8th baby), it was a tough tough years being mum when kids are young, but, She persevered wt LOTS of prayers and God’s strength. Now all of us are above 35 years old. I’ve never seen anyone as blessed as her. At 70 years old, She has dad who completely adores/loves her, 7 successful children who admire every bits of her and 18 healthy, happy grandkids. She is not perfect, but thru all those tribulation, she has grown so much more beautiful in characters. She is a role model to all of us, a woman of strength not wt her perfection but wt her model of dependancy in God’s strength to accomplish the impossible in the situation she was given.
I’m not here to judge you Martha, what’s done is done. You seem a little depressed wt 5 monsters and an unloving husband, fully understand that. Just give your best to motherhood and wt God’s help, you will be an incredible mom, when your children grow up, they will call you “blessed”. Whatever you have now, see it as a blessing, so you can appreciate and take on your role so beautifully as a guidance, angel and light for the future path. God loves you sacrificially, look to Him and love sacrificially as our reward is not temporal on earth.
“5 monsters” you say.
“I’m not here to judge you” you say.
“God loves you sacrificially” ?
Really?
LOl: wow, you are an early riser …
“5 monsters” is referring to her perception of her 5 kiddos, that’s why I’m encouraging her to see them as a God’s given blessing instead.(c my post above).
I’m not here to judge as we are all sinners in God’s eyes, whatever she’s done is between her and God. But, To a person in her position, I can only share the struggles my family had gone thru so as to encourage her to be a great mum in such impossible circumstances by drawing strength from the source of all life.
Since she is a church goer, she wld understand how God loves us unconditionally. While we were still sinners, Christ died on the cross in place for our sins. When you are so loved sacrificially, She can only do that to others.
Jess
When you felt SO loved sacrificially, You can only do that to others.
You could have focussed on “Today I’m a happy mother of 5 healthy children and a contented wife”, instead you chose to see the negative comment instead. In this way you are judging her harshly. In your religion, the son of God is sacrificed to redeem mankind’s sins. He was the son of God. For us mere mortals, our “daily bread” is more important. Anyway, it could be argued that your God sacrificed his son for the greater good. Isn’t that what Martha did?
As far as I understand, men & women are not allowed to have family planning in Catholic practice(which I don’t agree wt). No condom or removing of uterus, how many times can a woman go thru abortion? How long can she be happy and contented b4 getting stuck in the same predicament again? She mentioned, deep down she feels that abortion is bad, abortion is cruel.
Am I judging her? Not at all, as a mother, we do sometimes see our kids as monsters, she’s just being truthful. Like it or not, they are demanding, intrusive(7days/24hours) and we have our down time. Especially during pregnancy, post natal, lack of support or depression. I really understand how she felt as I went thru it myself.
But seeing our kids as monsters is not the final word. What matter is we all can draw strength from the creator to love the Unlovable. He loves the unlovable and promised to give us the same power to LOVE our ENEMY.
This is the different – God’s sacrificial love is completely OTHER PERSON CENTERED. And ours, the opposite. Sin is all abt Self Centered. We can’t help but live life motivated by OUR self pleasure, self glory, self pride, self right, self ambition, self freedom, self feeling good ….. for this reason, we fight, quarrel and fail to love the person we ARE supposed to love. It’s the result of our rejection of God as THE Ruler and King of our lives as we try to run life our own way and make ourselves “king” of ourselves.
Living away from our loving creator, we chase aft things of this world for our self pleasure – but deep down we feel empty and live life meaningless and purposeless (whether you experience it now or later in life)….The bad news is that God’s punishment for our sin is death…………….
BUT, the very HEART of GOD is Other person centered. Jesus Christ, being God Himself, GAVE UP His high position, made Himself NOTHING, take on the role of a man/creature, humbled Himself to the point of death on the cross for our sins, so that, thru Him we can live eternally.
This love is so impossible. It’s to the extend of sacrificing His own self pleasure in heaven, self glory, self right as God, self comfort, self freedom so He could give us LIFE abundantly, meaningful, ……like you said, He is God, we are mere man. But we are made in His image and likeness, our attitude should be like Him. SIN makes it impossible, but when we let Him rule our lives as king, we can do it too with His strength. I know I can and I have.
Sorry if you find this mail too heavy. can’t help but expressing myself in detail.
Ps. Wow, didn’t know you’re an Italian… welcome here!!!! I’m an Indonesian myself…:)
cao,
Sinner saved by grace
BTW, it’s 14:15 where I am! -ITALY- but 21:15 where you are – SINGAPORE.
big family says:
January 18, 2010 at 12:33 am
As far as I understand, men & women are not allowed to have family planning in Catholic practice(which I don’t agree wt). No condom or removing of uterus, how many times can a woman go thru abortion? How long can she be happy and contented b4 getting stuck in the same predicament again? She mentioned, deep down she feels that abortion is bad, abortion is cruel.
Am I judging her? Not at all, as a mother, we do sometimes see our kids as monsters, she’s just being truthful. Like it or not, they are demanding, intrusive(7days/24hours) and we have our down time. Especially during pregnancy, post natal, lack of support or depression. I really understand how she felt as I went thru it myself.
But seeing our kids as monsters is not the final word. What matter is we all can draw strength from the creator to love the Unlovable. He loves the unlovable and promised to give us the same power to LOVE our ENEMY.
This is the different – God’s sacrificial love is completely OTHER PERSON CENTERED. And ours, the opposite. Sin is all abt Self Centered. We can’t help but live life motivated by OUR self pleasure, self glory, self pride, self right, self ambition, self freedom, self feeling good ….. for this reason, we fight, quarrel and fail to love the person we ARE supposed to love. It’s the result of our rejection of God as THE Ruler and King of our lives as we try to run life our own way and make ourselves “king” of ourselves.
Living away from our loving creator, we chase aft things of this world for our self pleasure – but deep down we feel empty and live life meaningless and purposeless (whether you experience it now or later in life)….The bad news is that God’s punishment for our sin is death…………….
BUT, the very HEART of GOD is Other person centered. Jesus Christ, being God Himself, GAVE UP His high position, made Himself NOTHING, take on the role of a man/creature, humbled Himself to the point of death on the cross for our sins, so that, thru Him we can live eternally.
This love is so impossible. It’s to the extend of sacrificing His own self pleasure in heaven, self glory, self right as God, self comfort, self freedom so He could give us LIFE abundantly, meaningful, ……like you said, He is God, we are mere man. But we are made in His image and likeness, our attitude should be like Him. SIN makes it impossible, but when we let Him rule our lives as king, we can do it too with His strength. I know I can and I have.
Sorry if you find this mail too heavy. can’t help but expressing myself in detail.
Ps. Wow, didn’t know you’re an Italian… welcome here!!!! I’m an Indonesian myself…:)
cao,
Sinner saved by grace
Half Italian.
I don’t believe in a creator God, so my code of ethics has a very different foundation from yours, but this is not really on topic, this thread is about abortion, not the existence or not of a creator deity.
Have a nice day!
God the title of this article made me sick. She didn’t “kill her child”. She didn’t kill anything. She removed an unborn fetus from her body. The fetus was in her body and it does not become a “child” until it was born. This is my personal view – but even so, this magazine should realize that the title is very insulting, rude and a horrible way to depict women who decide to abort.
I agree with what you say about the foetus not being a child until it’s born, in fact in my opinion (and many others) it isn’t a ‘person’ until it has developed a ‘personality’. However, just exactly when that occurs is a matter of debate. The great Science Fiction writer, Philip K Dick, once wrote a short story illustrating this dilemma. In it he describes a society where children may be aborted up to the age of 12 – a bit of an exaggeration one may successfully argue, but necessary to illustrate the philosophical/ethical point in question. The title of the story was “The Pre-Persons”.
On the subject of the title of this article, it is in keeping with the sensationalist ‘tabloid’ style that many blogs use. It’s what draws you in, and prompts you to comment. It reminds me of UK magazines such as ‘Tit Bits’ or ‘Hello’ or newspapers like ‘The Sunday People’. A more accurate and less inflammatory title would probably have generated far less interest. To be honest, I expected to read a story about a ‘mercy killing’ of a disabled or terminally ill child when I first saw the headline. On reflection (this will upset a few readers but…) an abortion could very well be regarded by some as a mercy killing….
and why doesn’t she get a procedure done like removing her womb or ovaries if she is so desperate.
Haven’t you read the article? And the comments? Or did you have your brain removed before makeing your contribution?