Giving birth is just about one of the most vulnerable times for a woman. You’re all splayed out for everyone to see, there may be some open-air bodily functions involved, and we’re at the height of our emotions.
For one woman, her vulnerability was amplified by the discovery that her husband and father of her children, was cheating on her… even while she was birthing their baby.
She thought all the notifications were from family. | Image source: iStock
He was cheating while I was in labour
“Five years ago while I was in the waiting part of labour (you know were the epidural kicks in but you’re hours away from the main event) my then husband told me he needed to get some food because he was starving,” the woman wrote in her post to Reddit.
“In his hungry hurry, he left his phone behind, which every few seconds kept getting notifications.”
The woman asked the midwife to pass her the phone, assuming the notifications were family and friends asking for an update on the labour, but she couldn’t have been more wrong.
“I asked the midwife pass me the phone, and he literally was updating his mistress on my labour and, how can I put this… sweet talking her about how even though he was with me she still had his full attention,” she continued.
When he returned, there was much screaming, the midwife kicked him out of the room and the woman’s sister came in to support her for the birth.
The woman then moved back into her parents’ home with her five children, the couple got a divorce, and he moved in with the new girlfriend, who is also the woman’s cousin (still following?).
The woman’s sister ended up being there for her. | Image source: iStock
Harry Potter vs the step mum
Now the kids are 15, two aged 13, eight and five years old, and the cousin/girlfriend is still on the scene and has become a part of the kids’ lives.
The kids have recently become obsessed with Harry Potter and it has been pointed out that the eldest four look like the Weasleys after the eldest made a TikTok video. They love to dress up, particularly the five-year-old girl who dresses up as male characters such as Harry, Draco, Snape and Edward from Twilight.
The mum said this doesn’t bother her at all and just wants her kids to be happy, but her ex-husband and his girlfriend don’t see it the same way.
“Today while I was dropping them off, my ex’s girlfriend asked to speak to me about my kids, especially my youngest,” the woman wrote.
“She basically told me it was weird and they weren’t right in the head so what are we gonna do about the situation at hand.
“I told her she’s f**ked her cousin’s husband so her ideas on what people should do aren’t something I want my kids picking up, and that my kids are fine, she isn’t their mom nor will they ever see her as such, and that they hate her guts (her doing but that’s another story).
“And finally, she should stay in her lane when it comes to my kids.”
The kids weren’t around when the confrontation occurred, and the mum left afterwards. A few hours later, the woman received a call from her ex-husband who was irate over how his girlfriend had been treated. He said she had been crying all day, particularly over the comments about her never being their mother since she can’t have children of her own. He’s demanded the woman apologise but that doesn’t seem like a realistic request given what happened next.
“My eldest rang me to collect them. Apparently, my ex had hidden all their costumes (he has a garden like the Malfoy one so they wanted to make TikTok videos) and his gf held a ‘family meeting’ about the HP obsession and basically belittled my kids, especially my five-year-old,” she wrote.
The second youngest child recorded the interaction which was then uploaded to Facebook, so the mother took her sister around there and collected her children.
“I told my ex I’ll be going for full custody,” said the woman, “I took my kids out to the car at that stage but my sister just let loose.”
What’s wrong with a girl dressing as Harry Potter anyway? | Image source: iStock
Your kids, you parent them your way
Most people agreed the woman had every right to do and say what she did.
“She was way out of line for trying to tell you how to parent YOUR kids,” commented one person. “They can do what they want when they’re at their dad’s house. She should just talk to her bf? So weird. No need to bring you into this.”
Another added, “I was literally cheering when OP said what she said… It’s about time people STOPPED considering a person’s hobby and choice of entertainment to be a reflection of some mental illness or social ineptness or a lack of value/worth.”
And this person laid it all out on the table: “Dude… she f**ked your husband and… was texting him while you in the delivery room and she thinks it’s OK to consult you about some dress up? They’re freaking kids. You didn’t do it in front of the kids so it’s kosher and it’s even more since you’re standing up for your kids and they’ve expressed their upset with her prior.”
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This article was first published in KidSpot and republished on theAsianparent with permission.
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