For a first-time mum, it can be overwhelming to tend to a newborn. Try having two of them! Imagine all the crying, diaper changes and feedings, and now multiply that by two. Patsy Soh, a dietician with Nestlé, shares her experiences on having twins.
Having twins is not as uncommon as it used to be. With the likes of Hollywood births coming out in doubles (think Angelina Jolie, Rebecca Romijn) with or without the use of IVF, having twins does not really raise eyebrows these days.
The exhaustion of having just gotten two babies out of you with the constant crying of the newborns might push you over the edge.
But not for this mother, who is coping and managing well ten months after delivery. Meet Patsy Soh, a dietician with Nestlé.
Born in Kuala Lumpur and now settled in Singapore, Patsy was married for four years before the arrival of her twins. Hardly at home and constantly meeting friends after work, Patsy knew having children was going to require major changes to her life.
Being the youngest in her family, did she feel suffocated with the idea of sudden having to raise not only one but two newborns?
“Not at all. I had looked after my nephews and nieces. When I was overseas for seven years, I babysat too. So it was definitely news I welcomed,” Patsy explains.
In April 2008, Patsy gave birth to fraternal twins Rebecca and Timothy after an induced natural birth at KK Women’s and Children’s Hospital. Little Rebecca was first to come out, weighing 2kg.
And if you think giving birth to two babies would leave her winded, you’re wrong. Gutsy Patsy started exercising just two months after giving birth.
“It has been a learning curve for me. When the kids came along, it became claustrophobic to a certain point. All of a sudden the family had grown from two people to six people—my husband and I, my mother, our maid and the babies,” Patsy said. But she has managed to make the most out of her time by bonding with the twins.
“Initially, it was a little hard. When I was breastfeeding Timothy, he latched on to my breast fast but Rebecca, being the smaller one, had a bit of trouble and I had to express my breast milk into a bottle for her. As a result, I could not really hold her and breastfeed her. That special bond I had with my son just wasn’t forming with my baby girl and the frustration was being felt by both of us,” Patsy recalled.
But problems are bound to resolve, and she found a way around this. As soon as her son was done being breastfed, which usually took around 45 minutes to an hour, she would cuddle with Rebecca and hold her for the same amount of time.
How does Patsy’s career with Nestlé influence the way she cares for her twins? Read on to find out more.