10 practical ways to reconnect with your spouse

10 ways to reconnect with your spouse

Is the romance with your spouse dwindling down? Do you feel like you both hardly know each other anymore? Don’t let these feelings fester any longer. Read on to learn practical steps on how to rekindle the passion to strengthen your marriage!

1. Accept that things are different

The key to a successful marriage is to accept that things are different and can never go back to the way things were before you had kids. You are a mum and he is a dad now and you have new responsibilities and priorities. You might feel in over your head but as the kids go to school, things will ease up and you will get into the groove of things.

Life isn't easy, but at the end of the day it's worth it because you're doing these things with the love of your life.

2. Take a walk down memory lane

Reconnect with your spouse by letting your guard down and reliving the good old days. Watch your wedding movie, look at photographs from your pregnancy and remember how in love you were in the beginning. Bask in those memories.

3. Set aside time without kids

Even if you find yourself worn out after a long day - ensure you make time for one another. It does not mean you have to get the bedroom freak on - but it could be a simple date night out without the kids, so you can have a real adult conversation with each other. The rule here is - no talking about the kids!

4. Do something they love, but you hate

You married your spouse despite your differences. Now, show them that you have truly accepted those differences by engaging in things that they truly enjoy. If they’re obsessed with mountain biking, go with them even if you won’t aren’t the best at it. Use that time to take candid photos of them while they’re is in their element.

5. Hire a baby sitter and go on a staycation

When the pressure of work and handling the children becomes too much, hire a baby sitter and get away together even if just for a night. Being away from home and your responsibilities can do wonders with helping you reconnect with your spouse.

6. Do Something Special

Without needing any reason or occasion, do something special for your spouse. Massage their feet, take over the chores or buy a pint of their favourite ice cream. These little things are a big deal to your spouse and it will surely be noticed.

7. Be Silly Together

Slip down a slide, dance in the rain or just run mindlessly around the park. Doing silly things together can illicit a lot of much-needed laughs.

8. Institute a Family daily stand up

Most engineering focused businesses conduct something called a daily stand up, where everyone in the team shares what they did the day before and what they plan to do today and any help they need. Create a family version of daily stand up, to keep communication flowing freely with an agenda.

9. Find out your language of love

The 5 Love Languages profile test will give you a thorough analysis of your emotional communication preference. It will single out your primary love language, what it means, and how you can use it to connect with your loved one with intimacy and fulfillment.

You can do the free test here: https://www.5lovelanguages.com/profile/couples/

10. Remember that change begins with you

To help you remember your mission of reconnecting, I recommend memorizing and practicing the following short poem: /br> To keep a marriage brimming /br> with love in the loving cup -- /br> When you are wrong, admit it /br> and when you are right, shut up!

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Karen Mira

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