TAP top app download banner
theAsianparent
theAsianparent
Product Guide
  • Together Against RSV
  • SG60
  • Pregnancy
  • Parenting
  • Child
  • Feeding & Nutrition
  • Education
  • Lifestyle
  • Events
  • Holiday Hub
  • Aptamil
  • TAP Recommends
  • Shopping
  • Press Releases
  • Project Sidekicks
  • Community
  • Advertise With Us
  • Contact Us
  • VIP
Login
    • Articles
  • Together Against RSVTogether Against RSV
  • SG60SG60
  • PregnancyPregnancy
  • ParentingParenting
  • ChildChild
  • Feeding & NutritionFeeding & Nutrition
  • EducationEducation
  • LifestyleLifestyle
  • EventsEvents
  • Holiday HubHoliday Hub
  • AptamilAptamil
  • TAP RecommendsTAP Recommends
  • ShoppingShopping
  • Press ReleasesPress Releases
  • Project SidekicksProject Sidekicks
  • CommunityCommunity
  • Advertise With UsAdvertise With Us
  • Contact UsContact Us
  • VIPVIP
    • Community
  • Poll
  • Photos
  • Food
  • Recipes
  • Topics
  • Read Articles
    • Tracker
  • Pregnancy Tracker
  • Baby Tracker
    • Rewards
  • RewardsRewards
  • Contests
  • VIP ParentsVIP Parents
    • More
  • Feedback

Privacy PolicyCommunity GuidelinesSitemap HTML

Download our free app

google play store
app store

35-year-old Mum Of Four Shares Lessons She Learned After Losing Both Breasts To Cancer

3 min read
35-year-old Mum Of Four Shares Lessons She Learned After Losing Both Breasts To Cancer

Rachel Garlinghouse, an author and blogger, shares the lessons she's learned about life after losing both her breasts to cancer...

When Rachel Garlinghouse found out she had breast cancer, she first refused to accept it. Denial was her way of coping, but she didn’t allow fear to paralyse her. She recounts the shock of the diagnosis as well as her road to healing in an article published on Babble.

In the article, she writes about how, after discovering a lump in her right breast and undergoing a mammogram and ultrasound, the doctor gave her the “soul-shaking” diagnosis.

The 35-year-old mum was then beset by an overwhelming anxiety. What about her four kids? What would happen next?

She did her research and found that less than 5 percent of those diagnosed with breast cancer are under the age of 40. Surely there had been a terrible mistake, she writes. Thinking herself healthy and with no family history of the disease added to her disbelief.

After a few weeks, she scheduled a check-up with a new surgeon, who offered her two options:

  1. a lumpectomy, which needed to be followed by six weeks of radiation therapy.
  2.  a bi-lateral mastectomy, which would remove both her breasts.

The former option would still leave her with a moderate risk that the cancer would recur, while the latter would leave her cancer risk at 1 percent. Naturally, she chose double mastectomy.

losing breast to cancer

Photo: Rachel Garlinghouse IG

On Losing Breast To Cancer: She realised cancer hits even the “young and healthy”

This ordeal challenged her preconceived notions that “bad things happen to those who are older, less vigilant” than young hands-on parents like her. Sadly, she writes, “cancer does not discriminate.”

In the weeks following her surgery, she recalls crying more than she ever did in her entire life, her tears a mixture of “sadness and relief, grief and thankfulness, fear and hope.”

She still counts herself as lucky, because cancer didn’t spread to her lymph nodes. Presently, her doctor remains optimistic about her recovery.

Staying thankful and living in faith

Throughout her recovery, she remains thankful for the support of her husband, children, friends and family. Proudly considering herself a woman of faith, she values life’s little miracles.

The greatest lesson she learned out of all of this, she writes, is the value of a woman’s intuition or what she calls a “still, small voice,” which must be listened to and heeded in the direst situations.

Thanks to her gut instinct and her resolve to face her fears head-on–no matter how frightening–helped her become who she is today. She emphasised the importance of not wallowing in denial and acting in faith. Today, she looks forward to life’s adventures with her loving family by her side.

*Republished with permission from theAsianparent Philippines

source: Babble

READ: Heartbreaking: Mum with breast cancer breastfeeds son for last time

Partner Stories
Worried About Your Child’s Oral Health? 6 Signs Your Child Should See an Orthodontist
Worried About Your Child’s Oral Health? 6 Signs Your Child Should See an Orthodontist
Is Your Child’s Tummy Telling You Something: 6 Signs of Poor Gut Health in Kids
Is Your Child’s Tummy Telling You Something: 6 Signs of Poor Gut Health in Kids
Not Just a Bite – The Hidden Costs of Dengue for Families in Singapore
Not Just a Bite – The Hidden Costs of Dengue for Families in Singapore
Mom, Is Your Baby's Mouth Ulcer Keeping You Up at Night?
Mom, Is Your Baby's Mouth Ulcer Keeping You Up at Night?

Got a parenting concern? Read articles or ask away and get instant answers on our app. Download theAsianparent Community on iOS or Android now!

img
Written by

Bianchi Mendoza

  • Home
  • /
  • Diseases-Injuries
  • /
  • 35-year-old Mum Of Four Shares Lessons She Learned After Losing Both Breasts To Cancer
Share:
  • When Time Affects Both Parents: What 2025 Research Really Tells Us About Fertility and Age

    When Time Affects Both Parents: What 2025 Research Really Tells Us About Fertility and Age

  • Vitamin D for Kids: How to Avoid Toxicity While Supporting Growth

    Vitamin D for Kids: How to Avoid Toxicity While Supporting Growth

  • Chronic Pain and Ageing: Myths, Risks, and Modern Treatments in Singapore

    Chronic Pain and Ageing: Myths, Risks, and Modern Treatments in Singapore

  • When Time Affects Both Parents: What 2025 Research Really Tells Us About Fertility and Age

    When Time Affects Both Parents: What 2025 Research Really Tells Us About Fertility and Age

  • Vitamin D for Kids: How to Avoid Toxicity While Supporting Growth

    Vitamin D for Kids: How to Avoid Toxicity While Supporting Growth

  • Chronic Pain and Ageing: Myths, Risks, and Modern Treatments in Singapore

    Chronic Pain and Ageing: Myths, Risks, and Modern Treatments in Singapore

Feed

Feed

Get tailored articles about parenting, lifestyle, expert opinions right at your fingertips

Poll

Poll

Participate in interesting polls and see what other parents think!

Photos

Photos

Share the photos of loved ones in a safe, secure manner.

Topics

Topics

Join communities to bond with fellow mums and dads.

Tracker

Tracker

Track your pregnancy as well as baby’s development day-by-day!

theAsianparent

Download our free app

Google PlayApp Store

Mums around the world

Singapore flag
Singapore
Thailand flag
Thailand
Indonesia flag
Indonesia
Philippines flag
Philippines
Malaysia flag
Malaysia
Vietnam flag
Vietnam

Partner Brands

Rumah123VIP ParentsMama's ChoiceTAP Awards

© Copyright theAsianparent 2026 . All rights reserved

  • About Us
  • Privacy Policy
  • Terms of Use
  • Sitemap HTML
  • Tools
  • Articles
  • Feed
  • Poll

We use cookies to ensure you get the best experience. Learn MoreOk, Got it

We use cookies to ensure you get the best experience. Learn MoreOk, Got it