6 ways to rock your marriage
When two people are newly married, the first seven years can be a little rough. Marriage woes are normal though, as this is your time to grow – the time when the two of you are still getting to know each other and figuring out how to make it all work. Rough spots will surface, but nothing that the two of you can't work through. For a successful beginning, here are a few simple steps to take which will make you happy and stronger as a pair.
Always talk to each other about things that are bothering you. Do not yell or bombard your spouse as soon as they walk through the door or as soon as you get home. Wait till after you’ll have had time to sit and relax for a few minutes. Maybe during dinner or while you are getting ready for bed. Just remember to keep the lines of communication open and do not be afraid to voice your feelings. This will help you better work through your marriage woes.
Above all things, remember that your marriage is a partnership. Everything you do will affect your spouse – so discuss everything you plan on doing with them. Don’t think that your spouse is insignificant or beneath you. Your spouse may be a stay at home parent, but that doesn’t mean their job is any less difficult than yours. Being a stay home parent is one of the most difficult jobs in the world and deserves a lot of respect.
3. Quality time
Try not to let the marriage woes get to you. Every parent knows how hard this one can be, but it is a must to keep a marriage alive. You will need to find the time to spend with each other – even if it’s something as simple as an evening to dinner. No work, no kids just the two of you talking. Reconnect like you used to when you were dating, discuss your dreams, ideas and beliefs.
4. Sexual attraction
Sex may not be the most important thing, but let's face it, physical attraction probably played a part in bringing you’ll together. It does not necessarily have to include intercourse, if you’re feeling a little dead beat from the day. Try curling up on the couch together or kiss a little. Take time to pay attention to one another, it will keep things alive.
5. Say sorry
Understand that when the two of you have an argument, it is important to say you are sorry if it was your fault. It is not a sign of weakness to admit it when you are in the wrong. Just make sure that you know what it is that you are apologising for and make the effort not to do it again.
6. Team effort
The first rule of marriage is that you’re a team now – you and your spouse make decisions together. Just because your parents have been married for a long time does not mean what worked for them will work for you. The both of you are your own people and need to base how you handle things on what will you feel works for you. Making it through that first seven years can be fun. There are some people who have a difficult time dealing with going from being single to getting married, but with a little effort (and these tips!) you will find it much easier to deal with. Being married can be a wonderful step in your life, but it will take both of you working together to make it possible.