Give your lady multiple orgasms!

Multiple orgasms are possible!

Listen up ladies, "All women are [physiologically] capable of having multiple orgasms," says Barbara Bartlik, MD, clinical assistant professor of psychiatry of Cornell University in New York.

Well, first off, having multiple orgasms isn’t exactly top priority when it comes to us. We have to cater to our hubbies, our babies, our pets and our work (not necessarily in that order)—it is our nature to be selfless and giving.

So, it is about time we indulge. We’re not being greedy if we want multiple orgasms. It is time we change our mindset about orgasms.

Every woman can have multiple orgasms!

Barbara says: "Women, and their partners, don't usually try to have multiple orgasms. These days, people are very busy and they just don't have time for sex. When they do have time for sex, they don't have the energy to work for more than one orgasm."

She adds quite unabashedly: "Many women [are] comfortable and satisfied with one orgasm, and they don't want to try for more. Instead of thinking about multiple orgasms as an embarrassment of riches, why not think of them as making up for lost time?"

Come again and again and…

Seriously, we do not have to explain this, do we? We’ll keep this part short and elaborate on the "how-to" section. According to healthcentral.com, "Multiple orgasms are a series of sequential orgasmic experiences that occur in quick succession." Let’s launch into the guide to multiple orgasms…

Getting into da’ mood

It is all about the ambience when it comes to sexy time. You should be comfortable in your own skin--within your body. Love yourself, accept the way you are and realise that you are LOVED.

Now that the inner mood is sorted, set up the surroundings with romantic lights, scented candles or what ever rocks your world. You can surrender to the experience when you are comfortable, safe and open.

Know your body

Before thinking in multiples, let’s start with one. Do you know your body’s hot or not spots? Please do some self-exploration and figure those out. No one can help you if you don’t help yourself.

Pan out the foreplay

Why skim on the good part? Foreplay is breathtaking--literally. If you did not already know, clitoral stimulation via oral sex is the easiest way to orgasm. His tongue is strong, flexible and soft—making it the ideal instrument to get you there. Get him to tease you orally before bringing it home!

Have your appetizer, and then move on for the main course for more climaxing. Your body will then be ready for round two (vaginal stimulation)—all geared up and ready for full throttle.

Don’t rush it

Take it slow; what is the hurry? Unless it is a quickie, then multiple orgasms would not be a goal anyway, right? Refer to the tip in the previous page and don’t skim on the foreplay. Oh, clitoral stimulation and proper breathing should be a focus at times. Ever heard of the Yoni massage? You can definitely use that to achieve your first orgasm.

Pack in enough slumber

It is often the case that being sleep deprived can put a damper on those "mor’gasms". Why? Well, since one orgasm may place you in a relaxed mode, you might drift off into dreamland. If you’re caught up on sleep then you might not be able to resist the temptation when your man puts his moves on you for another orgasm.

Pause before repeat

After your first orgasm, you might be used to pulling away from your man because you’re too sensitive to his touch—there is a massive amount of blood flow after stimulation. So give your vagina a break, ask your lover to focus on other hot spots—your thighs, your breasts, the back of your neck.

This activity will keep your sexual energy burning high while your va-jay-jay cools off before firing up for round two.

Ride the wave

So, your first climax can come from clitoral stroking, then you can move on to G-spot stimulation. While you are at it, some positions to keep in mind (to really fleece the "happy") are doggie style and reverse cow-girl because your spot is naturally stroked. It is said that ladies are inclined to have more orgasms if several parts of the bod are simultaneously stimulated.

Ask you man to ditch being predictable, your body responds better when you don’t see what is coming next.

C’mon, revel in it

Let go; don’t get entangled in the mambo jambo. If you get too caught up in achieving multiple orgasms—you might not even get there. Ever heard of that old saying where if you want something too much, you simply won’t get it? Well, this is one of those cases.

Same with conceiving a baby, the stress is just a buzz-kill, a kill-joy—whatever you want to call it. Ladies, just have fun while at it.

Practice till it’s perfected

Don’t expect perfection the first time around. Take a dip in fantasyland, push those inhibitions aside and ride with it.

Use gobs of lubrication so that you can try for more "O"s—stimulate the whole genital area, not leaving out the G-spot, clit and vagina.

Worth his while

Last note, you can promise your man that you'd do them right after they get you there several times.

Written by

Felicia Chin

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