Local actress Felicia Chin admitted in the latest episode of meWATCH talkshow Hear U Out that she gets anxious easily, and explained it was because the environment she grew up in was unstable. She also said there were times when she grew up facing a lot of fear.
“My Mother Had A Temper Sometimes”
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When host Quan Yi Fong asked why her environment was unstable, she said: “My mother had a temper sometimes and she didn’t know how to express herself. Some of the things she said were hurtful to a child. (The anxiety) is accumulated, so I’m afraid to make mistakes.”
Her father’s death when she was 17 also caused her a lot of pain. Felicia added that she’s sensitive to how people perceive her and also to other people’s emotions.
Her relationship with her mother now appears to be good. She and her boyfriend, local actor Jeffrey Xu, celebrated her mother’s birthday last December and Felicia wrote on her Instagram post: “I love you, mum. Thank you for everything that you did for us in the past. We love you.”
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Controlling Your Temper Around Your Kids
No matter how frustrating parenting may get, it’s important that we don’t lash out at our kids while disciplining them. We know at times our children might turn a little stubborn and refuses to listen to you.
But instead of reacting violently our of impatience, here a few tips on how you calmly control your temper:
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1. Take a deep long breath. Calmly count to 10 and breathe in and out to keep your emotions at bay. This can help in refraining you from screaming things you’ll regret after.
2. Try to pretend your child isn’t yours. For a moment, put yourself in somebody else’s shoes and imagine that you’re not the parent of your child. This can help you detach from the situation and respond in a reasonable manner.
3. Give yourself some time to calm down. Instead of giving your child a time out, remove yourself from the situation for a moment to get some space and recollect your thoughts. When you’ve finally managed to control your temper, speak to your child again.
4. Avoid yelling at your child. Screaming while your kid is yelling at you will only make matters worse. Instead, try to speak in a low voice so as not to scare him.
5. Find a distraction. Before you confront your child, try to find something to distract you from the frustration and impatience you’re feeling such as thinking of something funny or keeping yourself preoccupied with a house chore.
This article was first published in AsiaOne and republished on theAsianparent with permission.
Lead image source from screengrab from meWATCH.
With reports from Bianchi Mendoza.
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