Why giving in might be damaging your marriage

You need to voice your desires without any fear or inhibition to get what you want. Here's how to do it.

In a relationship, while it’s very important to listen with full attention and understand what your partner is saying, it is also your right to be heard.

While it sometimes seems “easier” to just be accommodating and understanding to avoid a fight, if you constantly give in then you might be festering resentment internally and that is bound to blow up at some point or another.

Whether it may be about you asking for something little like help with a household chore or something major, speaking about your concerns will lead to better understanding within your relationship.

If you are unsure on how to begin asking for what you want. Follow this simple guide.

The first thing you have to do is to reflect on what your needs and wants are and objectively evaluate if they are reasonable.

Before you put them across to your partner, you should understand clearly what you want and why you want it.

When talking about it to your partner, make sure they know exactly how you feel about it and why it is so important to you. Be sincere and genuine. This can be a pleasant conversation if you don’t sound demanding or reproachful.

Use direct, simple language. Speak in clear and concise terms, don’t beat around the bush. Be confident, be assertive but don’t whine or nag.

Remember, in all spheres of your life, it’s only by asking for what you want that you ever have a chance of getting it. And when you do, you will find that your relationships will strengthen as well. So get your act together and voice your desires.

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Written by

Meiling Wong Chainani

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