What Hubbies and Daddies want...

We scoured the streets of Orchard and spoke to over 100 Singaporean dads about parenting and their relationship with their wives. This is what they had to say...

What Hubbies and Daddies want...

The secret is out when Dads speak out and pour out what makes them tick and what ticks them off!

1) Stop nagging

When you nag at me, I automatically tune you out. Instead, you are better of making a list of the things you want me to do, give me a deadline, and I promise you it'll be done! If I don't do it, then nag at me. But not before listing it. PS: When you nag, you remind me of my mother - and that's not necessarily a good thing!

2) Recognise our efforts

Why is it you only see the stuff that I didn't do? What about all the things I did do? Like accompany you for all your sappy chick flicks, visit with your family on Sundays, when we all know it should be soccer day! Acknowledgement some times would be nice.

3) Don't be a Nazi

Stop micromanaging my relationship with the kids. They are MY kids too! If I want to take them for a movie or for ice cream, I should be "allowed" to. I really hate asking you for "permission".

4) Stop guilt-tripping us

I just want to have a little free time without feeling guilty that I am not spending enough time with the kids. Being Super dad and Super provider is not a walk in the park!

5) Just chill

What's wrong with short cuts? If we aren't going out, why can't the kids be in their PJ all day? And do we really have to comb her hair? Can't it be messy for just one day? Isn't bed head supposed to be fashionable?

6) Give us room for mistakes

Give us the opportunity to hone our parenting skills. If you keep breathing down our back every time we try to change the diaper, we're never going to learn.

7) Your standards...sigh

Lower your standards for heaven's sake. If we've cleaned the bathroom, and it looks clean to us, then guess what, it's clean. Don't get mad at us and redo it. We're never going to offer to do it again!

8) Amore

Nothing makes us as happy as sex. Not the amazing dinner you cooked. Not the surprise holiday you planned. Not even the fact that you are willing to sit through the World Cup with us. We can live without all of that. We cannot live without sex.

9) Hello, I exist!

You are married to me. Not your mother or best friend. Discuss major decisions with me first, before you discuss it with them!

10) Where's my wife?

I know the kids are important, but so am I. I didn't sign up for a ten-minutes a night wife. Would it really kill you to come to bed early once a week? And no we don't have to have sex. We can just talk (when I say we, I mean you keep quiet for once, and let me talk for a change)
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Written by

Sandra Ong

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