Miscarriage: Finding a good support system
Though life seems to come to a stop after a miscarriage, it still goes on -- Learn how to cope or help someone cope with the loss of a precious life.
For every 10 women who get pregnant, about 3 suffer from a miscarriage. It’s devastating and truly a terrible thing to happen to anyone. But it is very important to note that there is life after miscarriage. A woman can be depressed or discouraged but it is important to eventually get back to normal again. The main thing is to get a network that can provide proper miscarriage support to start the healing process.
After suffering from a miscarriage, you are entitled to wallow in despair. No one should force you to get better as if nothing happened. However, you should try to start healing yourself as soon as possible. The very first thing you need to do is to accept what has happened and that it isn’t your fault.
Visit your doctor. Even if you don’t want to try for another baby soon, a visit to your doctor can eliminate insecurities that you might have regarding your body. If problems are found, you can opt to find out what your options are. The earlier you know what you need to do, the sooner you can come to terms with everything.
Stick to your husband. Do not push your husband away. He needs support and healing just as much as you do. Remember that you are not the only one who lost a child, he did too. Heal together.
Surround yourself with the right people. Seek the company of people who are supportive and understanding, but entertaining to keep your mind off the loss of your baby. Avoid negative people at all cost as they are not very beneficial when it comes to providing miscarriage support.
Seek help if needed. If you feel that you are not in control of your emotions, seek help from a specialist, counselor or a support group. These people know how you feel and won’t judge your coping methods.
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If you know someone who had a miscarriage, the best thing that you can do is be there for them. Your presence is actually very important so don’t worry about what you should say to them. If it is a sister, relative or close friend, you can visit them often and see how they’re doing. Bring their favourite food, new movies or other things that would cheer them up. The key is to provide company and distraction not unsolicited advice, especially if you haven’t been in the situation.
If you have suffered from a previous miscarriage, share your experiences on what you went through and how you bounced back. If you now have children of your own, you can tell them how you prepared yourself. Besides just talking to relatives and friends who suffered a miscarriage, you can also speak at miscarriage support groups to offer guidance and assistance to women who need it.
Have you ever suffered from a miscarriage? How did you cope? If not, have you ever helped someone who has suffered from one? Tell us, we would like to hear your story. For more on miscarriage support, watch this video: