6. Don’ts: Use your children as go-betweens and spies
Don’t pass information through your child and don’t use them to spy on your ex. If you want to communicate with your ex, directly contact him or her. When children are stuck in the middle they will have conflicting loyalties. Putting them in the middle by having to relay information means that, most likely, they are going to upset one or both parents.
How you and your ex approach the divorce can help your children through this difficult time. Adults may be separated, but in a child’s mind, he or she will always think of them as their parents, even when they have separated.
