Couples argue often when the other is not really listening to what their partner is saying. Hearing is totally different from listening, even though both may sound like the same thing. If you 'listen' closely to your spouse, you can easily determine what they really want and feel.
Solution: When speaking to each other, shut off any outside distractions. This helps to make a point that 'I value you and am listening to you and trying to understand your feelings.' Do not be reactive until you hear your partner out completely. It does wonders.
In the end, couples argue and it's normal. However, you should find out what works best for you and your spouse to reduce these fights. What matters most is that both of you want to solve things fast and peacefully.