Why do people cheat even if they're in a happy marriage?
There are many reasons why a partner or spouse would cheat and, surprisingly, it usually has nothing to do with being unhappy
According to marriage therapist Aaron Anderson, many of the couples who seek help from him say "they never saw it coming."
So, why would a happy person cheat?
Many people cheat because of some inadequacy or personal failure.
They may be harbouring past issues and insecurities that seep in into their present happiness, causing them to seek gratification elsewhere.
An example Anderson cited was a person who is an overachiever at work to make up for his shortcomings as a parent.
They don't address these situations; they just pretend that everything is fine and remain in denial.
This is often the root of affairs: sweeping things under the rug, putting up a perfect facade, when in truth there a deep-seated issues that need to be confronted and fixed.
Needing fulfilment, finding it in secrecy
Seeking validation and a way to release their regrets, frustrations, and insecurities, they try to find ways to voice out their true feelings.
They go on living a "superficially happy" life while their deeper issues remain unresolved.
Why is cheating often unexpected?
How can a marriage be cheating-proof?