The many reasons for morning sex

Morning for mums are usually hectic and stressful—so much prepping…breakfast for the hubby, hollering at the kids to get out of bed, getting dressed -- the standard drill. Not many will entertain the thought of sex in the morning. Weekends? No way, that’s sleep in time. Well, we have 4 reasons to change your mind…

1. It’s up, so why not?

Surely you’ve heard of morning wood; some may have been annoyed at the endless poking and prodding in the wee hours while still groggy. They can’t help it, it’s there, it’s up—and it’s biological! According to sex therapist Arlene Goldman, PhD, who is also the Psychology Today Here to Help: Secrets of Sexual Ecstasy: "Many men are at their horniest first thing in the morning."

So what? You ask. Well, Goldman added: "When a man has higher testosterone and is well-rested, he has more energy during sex. That energy will help him last longer." There is an increase of blood circulation in his penis overnight hence the inflated wiener. If you’re still not convinced because you feel unsexy in the a.m, and would rather see that wiener deflate, then there is a cure for that too. "Freshening up a bit will make you more alert and ready to get in the mood," says Goldman.

Take 30 seconds, get into the bathroom, brush up and put that "giant breakfast sausage" to good use. Mind-blowing sex at the very start of the day can change a lot of things.

2. Confidence conquered

If your man has a little performance anxiety, or is too tired after a long stressful day at work to please you late at night, then there is a way out. If he doesn’t already have an erection when he wakes up, it isn’t hard for him to… well, get hard.

Martha Lee, clinical sexologist from Eros Coaching says this: "Getting an erection may sometimes be part of your man's concern about initiating sex. A morning erection can, therefore, ease his anxieties, trigger his sexual drive and increase his sexual confidence. And of course, when both parties are confident between the sheets, it usually makes for more satisfying sex."

You, of all people, would know that feeling confident and sexy helps in having a satisfying love-making session. When you are feeling frumpy, bloated or just un-pretty, your confidence is dashed and the mind starts dwelling on the unattractive, when the focus should really be the pleasure part of it.

3. Starting the day with sexy love

Emotional intimacy gets strengthened when you get it on between the sheets right at the very beginning of the day. You feel so close to each other during the sexy-time--you have become one. Registered psychologist and director of The Counselling Place, Ho Shee Wai explained that the bond fostered will be maintained for the rest of your day—it reinforces the romantic connection.

What better way than to head off to your workplace knowing that mere moments ago you’ve shared something so wonderful and meaningful? And you get an all-day buzz from it too. All the feel-good juices are up and pumping, your endorphins are circulating in your system—ready to ease up any challenging situation. Say good-bye to those highly-strung mornings because you’re more relaxed and in an over-all brighter mood.

4. Throwing routine out the window

If you’re stuck in a boring sex routine—2 times a week, every Tuesday and Saturday, from 10.32 till 11.05 (give or take)—then it’s time you crack out of that rut! Sex, no matter how long you’ve been married, should be EVERYTHING but boring.

Time restraint can actually spice things up in this case. Who says that sex has to include long sessions of kissing (bearing in mind the issue of morning stanky breath)? Martha Lee says: "It allows you to let go of some of your expectations of what sex should be like."

Who knows, your love making can have an added zest to it because of the frantic rush you’re in—you might just have that raw and primal element thrown in. Oh, and what about this time saving tip—just do it in the shower, a 2-in-1 deal, the two of you can get dirty and clean at the same time. It doesn’t always have to be missionary style, right? Have some fun, maybe at the breakfast table if your kids are still in bed. Who knows where the morning-frisky can take you—if you are open to it. It's all about the juggling...