Tantric sex: 10 tips for married couples

1. Gaze into each other’s eyes

A great way to start is to lie on top of each other fully clothed and gaze deeply into each other’s eyes. Relationship and sex expert Dr. Cheryl Fraser states that this method is a good way to start and will increase intimacy between the two of you.

2. Breathe into each other

A common technique characteristic of tantric sex is to synchronise your breath. Straddle your partner’s lap and inhale when they exhale and vice versa.

3. Open your eyes

Although Bruno Mars might disapprove of opening your eyes during kissing as seen in his hit song ‘Grenade’, Tantric sex advocates that eyes should be kept open during a lovemaking session. Maintaining eye contact is fundamental to enjoying tantric sex.

4. Slow down

Sex is not a race and coming in first is not a good thing (Pun intended). Guys especially should try to take it slow and not finish it in a hurry.

5. Build up energy

A great way to build up energy and prolong the session is to engage in foreplay first. This will build up energy for the man and increase his stamina.

6. Clear your mind

If you want to enjoy sex, then you need to relax and forget all your worries. Give yourself some quiet time before sex to clear your mind of all your worries.

7. Move slowly

Tantric sex is not about trying to break the bed. Guys should thrust slowly to create a more sensual experience.

8. Sway gently

Instead of thrusting, the guy should penetrate the girl while she sits on him, Gently sway while in this position. As more energy builds, you should start rocking back and forth before finally thrusting.

9. Set aside time

If you truly want to enjoy the experience of tantric sex, then it is necessary to set aside time for it. Try to set aside a few hours devoted to just having great tantric sex as tantric sex cannot be achieved in a short time span.

10. Stop the orgasm

As you or your spouse start to feel yourself climaxing, stop the impending orgasm. Once it has been stopped, resume your sexual acts until orgasm approaches again. Keep stopping yourself from reaching orgasm until you can no longer control it.

11. Tantric sex

The end goal of sexual intercourse for most couples is to reach orgasm. However, guys usually reach orgasm a lot faster than girls meaning that one party is often left unsatisfied. Furthermore, often too much attention is paid to reaching orgasm that the couple fail to enjoy rest of the process. If the above scenario applies to you, then maybe tantric sex is the answer for your spouse and you. While there is no fixed definition of tantric sex, it is commonly agreed that the aims of tantric sex is to heighten sexual energy and intimacy and prolong sexual intercourse. Orgasm is not the main objective in tantric sex. The benefits one can reap from tantric sex is more enjoyable sex which may include increased intimacy, more sexual energy and even prolonged orgasms as a by-product of tantric sex.

Written by

Felicia Chin

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