X
theAsianparent Logo
theAsianparent Logo
Product GuideSign in
  • Awards
    • Parents' Choice Awards 2023
  • Pregnancy
    • Due date calculator
    • I'm pregnant
    • Trying To Conceive
    • Labour
    • After birth
    • Baby loss
  • Parenting
    • Parent's Guide
    • Relationship & Sex
  • Child
    • Newborn
    • Baby
    • Toddler
    • Pre-Schooler
    • Kid
    • Pre-Teen & Teen
  • Feeding & Nutrition
    • Diseases-Injuries
    • Breastfeeding & Formula
    • Meal Planner
    • Health
    • Allergies & Conditions
    • Vaccinations
  • Education
    • Pre-School
    • Primary School
    • Secondary School
    • Primary School Directory
  • Lifestyle
    • Money
    • Travel & Leisure
    • Fashion
    • Home
    • Fitness
    • Contests & promotions
  • News
    • International
    • Health
    • Celebrity
    • Singapore
  • TAP Recommends
  • Shopping
  • Press Releases
  • Project Sidekicks
  • Community
  • Advertise With Us
  • Contact Us
  • Become A Contributor
  • VIP

Is your husband "pornsexual"?

3 min read
Is your husband "pornsexual"?

What exactly does 'pornsexual' mean, and could your husband be one? Read on to find out!

For some couples, watching porn is normal behavior, some even watch porn to help get them "in the mood" so to speak. However, does porn become an actual problem?

What exactly does being a "pornsexual" mean?

Pornsexual is a relatively new term. It refers to people who tend to love watching porn more than having sex in real life. According to sex addiction therapist Christene Lozano, it is a type of learned behavior, and happens when people watch pornographic material repeatedly, and thus it desensitizes the brain and the body.

Basically, being pornsexual means finding more pleasure when it comes to watching porn, as compared to having sex with an actual person. And this type of behavior can become problematic, as it can cause problems with intimacy, and in turn can cause problems in a marriage.

Certified sex therapist Amanda Pasciucco adds, “Pornsexuals experience all of their sexual pleasure in isolation instead of shared." She added that it can also be a sign of a fear of intimacy since they can get sexual pleasure online, without the effort of intimacy.

How can you tell if your husband is pornsexual?

There are some signs that you need to watch out for to know if your husband is pornsexual or not. First would be if your husband tends to spend a lot of time alone on the computer. Second would be a sharp decline in your sex life. Another sign would be if your husband always insists on watching porn while you're having sex. That can probably mean that he gets more pleasure from watching pornography rather than through sexual intercourse.

Of course, there are a lot of factors that come into play if your husband suddenly loses interest in sex, so don't always jump to conclusions. However, if you're really sure that your husband might have an addiction to porn, then you most definitely need to do something about it as it can cause a lot of problems in your marriage. You might not notice it now, but you'll definitely see your husband slowly drifting away after a while.

What can you do about it?

According to psychotherapist Dr. Fran Walfish, being pornsexual can arise from a breakdown of communication in the relationship. This means that a problem in the relationship might have been the cause of your husband being a pornsexual.

However, this isn't the only possible cause, since watching porn can become an addicting behavior, it also might be the case that due to the fact that your husband watches too much porn, it's much more convenient and easier for him to 'get off' by just watching porn.

So if you find out that your husband is pornsexual, the first thing you need to do would be to address the problem. Talk it out and see what you can do as a couple in order to make thing easier for you. If you feel that you need outside intervention, there's nothing wrong with seeing a therapist or a marriage counselor in order to help you with your problems.

At the end of the day, it's important to always talk it out with your husband, and keep the lines of communication open.

Partner Stories
Facing Parenting Challenges? Help is at Hand. Just Reach Out.
Facing Parenting Challenges? Help is at Hand. Just Reach Out.
Parenting Lesson from a New Mum - Don’t Try to Do it All on Your Own!
Parenting Lesson from a New Mum - Don’t Try to Do it All on Your Own!
Celebrity Dad Mark Lee Shares the 3 P's of Raising School Going Children - Parenting Tips, PSLE Preparation & Protecting Your Child’s Eyesight!
Celebrity Dad Mark Lee Shares the 3 P's of Raising School Going Children - Parenting Tips, PSLE Preparation & Protecting Your Child’s Eyesight!
Bathroom Cleaning 101: A Complete Clean in Just 5 Minute Featuring Tips from Zoe Raymond
Bathroom Cleaning 101: A Complete Clean in Just 5 Minute Featuring Tips from Zoe Raymond

*This article is republished with permission from theAsianparent Philippines.

Source: nypost.com

READ: Can your husband’s ‘size’ affect your sex life?

Got a parenting concern? Read articles or ask away and get instant answers on our app. Download theAsianparent Community on iOS or Android now!

img
Written by

Alwyn Batara

  • Home
  • /
  • Relationship & Sex
  • /
  • Is your husband "pornsexual"?
Share:
  • My husband can't stop watching porn. Should I be worried?

    My husband can't stop watching porn. Should I be worried?

  • What to Do if You Catch Your Child Watching Pornography

    What to Do if You Catch Your Child Watching Pornography

  • I Try Tracy Lee's Hack for Egg Tarts and It's So Easy That Even Kids Can Make it

    I Try Tracy Lee's Hack for Egg Tarts and It's So Easy That Even Kids Can Make it

  • Wife Forgives Husband Who Had Two Affairs And Got A Woman Pregnant

    Wife Forgives Husband Who Had Two Affairs And Got A Woman Pregnant

  • My husband can't stop watching porn. Should I be worried?

    My husband can't stop watching porn. Should I be worried?

  • What to Do if You Catch Your Child Watching Pornography

    What to Do if You Catch Your Child Watching Pornography

  • I Try Tracy Lee's Hack for Egg Tarts and It's So Easy That Even Kids Can Make it

    I Try Tracy Lee's Hack for Egg Tarts and It's So Easy That Even Kids Can Make it

  • Wife Forgives Husband Who Had Two Affairs And Got A Woman Pregnant

    Wife Forgives Husband Who Had Two Affairs And Got A Woman Pregnant

Get advice on your pregnancy and growing baby. Sign up for our newsletter
  • Pregnancy
    • Baby
    • Education
    • Events
    • Allergies & Conditions
  • Family Occasions
    • Breastfeeding & Formula
    • Child Safety
    • Health
    • Diseases-Injuries
  • Lifestyle
    • Home
    • Money
    • Feeding & Nutrition
    • Diet & Weightloss
  • Normal Delivery
    • Cesarean Delivery
    • Behaviour
    • Secondary School
    • Formula Feeding
  • Ages & Stages
    • Latching & Concerns
    • Festivals & Holidays
    • Education
    • Pre-teen & Teen
  • More
    • TAP Community
    • Advertise With Us
    • Contact Us
    • Become a Contributor


  • Singapore flag Singapore
  • Thailand flag Thailand
  • Indonesia flag Indonesia
  • Philippines flag Philippines
  • Malaysia flag Malaysia
  • Sri-Lanka flag Sri Lanka
  • India flag India
  • Vietnam flag Vietnam
  • Australia flag Australia
  • Japan flag Japan
  • Nigeria flag Nigeria
  • Kenya flag Kenya
© Copyright theAsianparent 2023. All rights reserved
About Us|Team|Privacy Policy|Terms of Use |Sitemap HTML
  • Tools
  • Articles
  • Feed
  • Poll

We use cookies to ensure you get the best experience. Learn MoreOk, Got it

We use cookies to ensure you get the best experience. Learn MoreOk, Got it

theAsianparent heart icon
We’d like to send you notifications for the latest news and updates on baby care and health.