Would you ever cheat on your spouse?

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Find out if you have a high chance of being unfaithful to your spouse and what you can do to avoid having an extra-marital affair.

It is extremely rare for people to enter into marriage expecting themselves to cheat on their spouses. Extra-marital affairs are hardly ever intentional and more often than not, happen when people least expect it.

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Infidelity in marriage: Extra-marital affairs can happen when you least expect it.

Before a married person utters words such as “It’s safe, my husband is not in town and I’d really like to see you” or “I’d really like to be with you tonight. My wife won’t suspect a thing.”– several things might have already insidiously gone wrong in that person’s marriage which in turn led to these indiscretions.

Take the time to reflect if any of the following factors ring true for you. Be wary of them so that you can guard yourself against being unwittingly unfaithful to your spouse.

Risk #1: Looking for attention outside your marriage

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Be careful not to look for love, respect and attention from sources outside your marriage.

If you find yourself enjoying having your ego stroked by others more than your spouse, then you might want to keep yourself in check. Very often, people can begin to stray from their spouses when they long for romantic love and appreciation outside of their marriage or when they seek to build up their self image or sexual self-esteem through relationships with another friend or acquaintance. Be careful not to look to other people outside of your marriage as your primary sources for love, value and respect.

Risk #2: Neglecting to have meaningful conversations with your spouse

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Have meaningful concervsations with your husband about things other than money or household chores.

When conversations between you and your spouse only revolve around bills, household chores and child-minding, it can affect the quality of your marital relationship quite negatively. Do take the time to ask questions that show concern for your spouse. Your spouse might respond in turn to seek to understand you as well. Give yourselves opportunities to share more deeply about your joys and fears to grow closer to each other.

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