You and your spouse need to make the time to connect again in a sexual way. After all, that’s what brought your family into being in the first place. It’s perfectly alright if those long, sexual interludes are planned if that’s the only way they can happen. In fact, planning and preparing can be part of the excitement and sexual energy you draw from. So drop the kids off with a family member or a trusted friend once a month and either go home or to a motel and let the fun begin.