9 fights you should have with your husband!!!

After a long day at work away from each other, you want to talk with your husband and not have to compete with Angry Birds or e-mails for his attention.

Or you could both agree on a 'no-phone' time, such as during dinner, when you are chatting about your day, or when you're watching TV together.

It's tough to be taken seriously when your husband constantly overrules your decisions in front of the kids. It could be as simple as him letting your kids have 15 minutes more TV time when you have asked them to go to bed.

The problem here is, if it's done often enough, the kids will catch on and start to realise that they can get away with certain things.

Put it out there that if one of you makes a decision regarding the kids, the other must respect it and support whoever made the decision.

While it's perfectly natural to have differing parenting styles, discuss your differences when the kids are not around. In front of them, stand united.

If your partner is not around to check on something, hold off making a decision till you can discuss the matter with each other.

It's true that in this tough job market, most husbands work extra hard to stay in their bosses' good books. Or it could just be that he really loves his work.

Whatever the reason, all this work on your husband's part may have you feeling lonely because you barely see him.

So what do you do? You start a fight and tell him how awful it is that he has to work so much.

Experts say that when you tell your husband to "stop working so much," what he's probably going to hear is, "You don't respect all the work I do to provide for the family."

Instead of picking a fight along these lines, try telling him how much you miss him.

You should also talk about what you can do so you can spend more time together.

These could be simple but significant things such as waking up a bit earlier than you normally do to have coffee and breakfast together, going to the gym together, or having regular 'date nights'.

It's almost inevitable that the in-laws or your hubby's friends will offend you at some point, and your partner's failure to stand up for you may leave you very angry.

But the thing is, your husband may not even know why you're so angry.

If you're in this situation, experts recommend taking a deep breath, sitting down with your partner and explaining to him why his family's/friends' actions annoyed you so much.

Then discuss how you can avoid such situations in the future. For example, if your mum-in-law has a knack for criticising your parenting method in front of the family, ask your husband to bring it up with her in private.

Sure, you are your husband's soulmate and partner so of course he can talk to you about issues he may have at work or with life in general.

However, when he goes on and on every day, his complaints can easily suck the joy out of your relationship.

Experts say that when your husband starts complaining, listen to him attentively for a few minutes.

After he has his say, point out the bright side of things and tell him it's time to talk about something else.

Money issues are often the root cause for many arguments between spouses.

But before you get into a huge fight about spending, try and understand your spouse's motivation. Experts say spenders may want to enjoy their hard work while savers like to feel financially safe.

Regardless of the money matter that is important to you, don't keep it bottled up. Experts advise that while you shouldn't go on about money-related decisions made in the past, you and your partner should still make rules for the future.

You could agree that you're both free to spend what you like every month — up to a certain amount. Beyond that, you must consult your partner.

Whether you're a working or stay-at-home mum, the reality is that household chores still need to be done.

Doing chores all by yourself (especially if you don't have a helper) can leave you feeling physically exhausted for obvious reasons, and mentally exhausted because you're mad and thinking your hubby doesn't care about you because he doesn't chip in.

However, experts say this is probably not how he views it, and that women often have a tendency to put the burden on themselves and take things too personally.

So if you are feeling unsupported when it comes to household chores, speak up about it before you really start resenting your partner.

Remember to start the discussion when your stress levels are low, and be specific about your needs. Try saying, "It would help me if you could take care of these 3 things without me having to remind you."

If he forgets, remind him gently (but firmly!).

Even though you may think you shouldn't have to make such simple (and obvious!) requests, in reality, some spouses do need a nudge every now and then!

We all know that men in general have doctor-avoidance issues. Many of us may have even had arguments with our husbands about their reluctance to see the doctor about health issues.

The advice from experts is not to give up on your doctor-fearing hubby. Rather than fight about it, try and figure out why he is so reluctant.

Experts say people often ignore health concerns because they don't know how to handle bad news if they get it.

This may also be the case with your husband, so ask him if that's the problem and then do some research on treatments for the health problems your partner fears the most.

Next, make it clear to him that you're only picking this fight for his wellbeing.

Tell him how much you love, need and care about him and want him to stick around for the long haul. He really can't argue with that!