However, her MIL messaged her two weeks from her due date asking if she could come to take care of her for two weeks since her son won’t be around at that time.
But the user conveyed that she has already made her plans and her family members will come to take care of her.
Even though she informed her MIL that she can visit her whenever she wants, the latter was visibly upset. Then she expressed her desire to be present with her during the delivery.
“I told her no that spot is for my husband and unless they tell me medically I need someone I’m not filling his spot. I’ve done all of this alone so far and labour will be no different,” she said.
Her mum-in-law cried in front of her other family members and complained to her son that she was excluded on purpose from her birth plan checklist.
“My husband took my side because he’s amazing and said she’s the one giving birth so what she says goes,” the mum noted.
Feeling guilty, the woman later added, “Even though she’s weird, she deserves to be included with her grandkid.”
Incidentally, most people did not agree with this new mum-to-be.
“Hire A Professional Instead”: Netizens Say
A user commented on how thoughtless the MIL seemed to be, “What really gets me is the assumption that OP would ‘have no one here for her’. Did this woman really think that just because she didn’t care that no one else did?”
One wrote, “How can you be an AH by not wanting an AH around while you are pushing out a HUMAN out of your body? Further, she ‘snoozed-and-losed’ on the post-labour help. You were supposed to specifically ask for help from someone who hadn’t offered when you have a full month of nice family members lining up to help already? She can visit. That’s enough.”
There were some who suggested she reconsider having someone during labour.
“Having a support person in labour has been shown to improve birth outcomes. If it’s not too late, you could see if a doula is available. By hiring a professional, you might feel less like it’s someone ‘taking your husband’s place.”
What would you have done in this woman’s position?