22 sex tips inspired from 50 Shades of Grey

2) Come up with boundaries

When you communicate with each other about amping up your bedroom antics, do come up with some rules.

In the book, Christian actually draws up a contract that states what they will and will not try, as well as "safe words" that they both will use to stop a sexual act from progressing.

1) Have an honest, no holds barred conversation

The most important sex tip any couple can learn from '50 Shades of Grey' is to communicate openly with each other about what you like sexually. This should be an honest, no holds barred conversation.

Don't be ashamed to tell your partner everything you want! If you are reading theAsianparent, you probably share a child and life together.

Why not take the time to share your innermost desires and fantasies too?

Sex tips inspired by '50 Shades of Grey'

'50 Shades of Grey' has become quite popular worldwide, especially among mums. Whether or not you've read the book and/or intend to watch the movie, you should still check out these sex tips inspired by the book — have fun!

3) Take time to "set her on fire"

While most men can be turned on in an instant, women often require more time. Try kindling your wife’s desire to get intimate with you by letting her know she is constantly on your mind.

Flirt with her through phone messages or chats via the computer. By "setting her on fire," she will be likely to jump into bed with you by the time you get home!

In the book, Christian Grey always lets his woman know that he desires her, so go ahead and do the same with your wife — you don't have to be a young handsome billionaire to do so.

4) Be confident

Never ever underestimate the sex appeal of being confident! While a woman would love for her man to show some vulnerability every now and then, being insecure in the bedroom is definitely a major turn-off.

Even if you do not have sex often, act like you know what you are doing. In the book, Anastasia allows Christian to dominate her precisely because he presents himself as an expert in the bedroom.

5) Don't be selfish

Sex is a mutual activity and not something which you indulge in just to satisfy your own desires.

In order to have a truly pleasurable experience, both partners must try their best to please each other. Don't be a dead fish in bed; be active!

6) Work out

Our eyes are our most-used sense organ and physical appearance is definitely a big part of sex. Just because you are married doesn't give you an excuse to let your body go.

So go ahead and hit the gym — apart from making your body more desirable, you will feel sexier as well and have more energy in bed. '50 Shades of Grey' would not have achieved the success it has if Christian and Anastasia had been unfit.

7) Voice out what you want

Don't assume your partner knows what is going through your mind. If you want your spouse to do something, tell him/her about it!

In '50 Shades of Grey,' Christian is always upfront about what he wants from Anastasia.

8) Make time for sex

Sex helps to strengthen your relationship with your partner. Try to set aside time each week where you can just forget about the world and enjoy each other.

In the book, Christian always plans days for sex with Anastasia and so should you!

9) Role play

Role playing is often a good way to spice things up. Share with your partner your fantasies and, if he/she agrees to it, act them out.

You can even pretend to be Christian and Anastasia from '50 Shades of Grey'!

10) Maintain eye contact

Open your eyes up to a whole new level of sex by maintaining eye contact with your partner throughout sex.

Keeping your eyes open during sex helps strengthen the bond between you and your partner, and lets him/her know you are thinking only of him/her and no one else!

In the book, Christian doesn't ask Anastasia to keep her eyes open during sex for no reason.

11) Show your pleasure

Don’t be afraid to show your pleasure. In the book, Anastasia often moans in bed, so if you are usually a dead fish in bed, try moaning to show your man your appreciation for him and turn him on even more.

12) Use dirty talk

Sex in silence can be quite boring so why not take a few tips from Christian Grey and engage in some dirty talk! Never underestimate the erotic power of your words.

13) Be adventurous

Sex doesn't become boring unless you make it boring. Spice up your usual routine by incorporating new things into your sex life.

For starters, you can try searching online for some ideas. Make sure you talk about them together with your partner.

14) Tie each other up

Try out some of Christian's tricks by tying each other up. The woman doesn't necessarily have to be the one tied up; ladies can try tying their men up as well.

Having or lacking control has its own erotic connotations so take turns and see how it goes!

15) Stimulate each other's minds

Play a game whereby you ask each other questions. For every right answer your partner gives, reward him or her with a kiss or some other intimate gesture.

16) Spooning

Yes, even someone like Christian Grey spoons. And no woman would object to spooning, which, according to UrbanDictionary.com, means, "A form of cuddling in which the man embraces the woman from the back and fit together like spoons."

17) Play with toys

Use some sex toys in the bedroom and take your sex life to a whole new level.

In the book, Christian and Anastasia use different sex toys, including silver balls, which give Anastasia amazing sensations.

18) Read '50 Shades of Grey'

While '50 Shades of Grey' is primarily targeted at women, try reading the book together as a couple. The many erotic scenes in the book might just turn you both on enough to create your own erotic scene in the room. (Image source: Wikipedia)

19) Use different fabrics

Try using different materials from soft silk to rough denim and rub them up against your partner to give him/her different sensations each time you make love.

20) Blindfolding can be fun

By blindfolding your partner, you are removing all other distractions, accentuating his or her other senses and heightening the sexual experience.

21) Beg for more

Everyone loves an ego boost and one of the greatest ego boosters is to hear your partner "beg" for more!

During sex, "beg" for your spouse to do something — your "desperation" will only serve as motivation for him/her to intensify your bedroom action.

22) Massage away

Rub some massage oil onto your partner and gently massage him/her to help ease any soreness he/she may have gotten from your bedroom antics.

Who knows, your massage might even turn him/her on again!

Written by

Sean Foo

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