Pregnancy changes everything—including your sex life! But does it mean you have to put intimacy on hold? Not at all! Let’s get real about sex, pleasure, and safety while expecting.
Dr. Peter Wang answers the most burning questions about sex while expecting.
Q: Is oral or anal sex safe during pregnancy?
Dr. Wang: If both partners are comfortable and there are no medical red flags, then yes! Oral and anal sex can be safe during pregnancy. However, be mindful of physical discomfort—your growing belly might change the game.
For oral sex, avoid blowing air into the vagina, as it could cause an air embolism (rare but serious). For anal sex, extra lubrication is key since pregnancy hormones can increase sensitivity.
Bottom line? Prioritize comfort, communication, and safety.
Q: Can women with a low-lying placenta still have safe sex?
Dr. Wang: It depends. If you have placenta previa (where the placenta covers the cervix), your doctor may advise against penetrative sex to reduce the risk of bleeding. Always follow medical advice to keep you and your baby safe.
Q: What are the best sexual positions during pregnancy?
Dr. Wang: Positions that reduce pressure on the belly are more comfortable. Side-lying, spooning, and being on top can help.
- Side-lying (spooning): This position minimizes pressure on the belly and allows for a slower, more intimate experience.
- Woman on top: This gives the pregnant partner better control over depth and movement, reducing discomfort.
- Edge of the bed: Sitting on the edge of the bed while your partner stands can help avoid pressure on the abdomen.
Use pillows for support and adjust as needed. Listen to your body—if it feels wrong, stop.
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Q: How does pregnancy affect sexual desire?
Dr. Wang: Hormonal changes can either boost or decrease libido. Some women feel an increased drive, while others experience discomfort or fatigue. It’s normal—just communicate with your partner and adjust as needed.
Q: What precautions should couples take for high-risk pregnancies?
Dr. Wang: High-risk pregnancies may require avoiding sex altogether. If you have complications like preterm labor risk, placenta previa, or a history of miscarriage, consult your doctor before engaging in any sexual activity.
Q: Is it safe to have sex if I feel uterine tightening afterward?
Dr. Wang: Occasional tightening, also known as Braxton Hicks contractions, is common. But if contractions become regular or painful, stop and check with your doctor.
Q: How soon after childbirth can couples resume sex?
Dr. Wang: Typically, 4–6 weeks postpartum, but it depends on healing and personal comfort. If there were complications, wait for your doctor’s clearance. Take it slow, use lubrication if needed, and communicate openly with your partner.
Even if your period hasn’t returned, ovulation can still occur, meaning pregnancy is possible. If you’re not ready for another baby, discuss birth control options with your doctor.
About Dr. Peter Wang
Dr. Peter is an experienced medical doctor who has worked across various surgical and medical disciplines in public healthcare since 2017. A dedicated people person, he has served as Chief Medical Officer and Advance Care Planning (ACP) facilitator, always striving to provide quality patient care.
Pregnancy is a time of transformation, but that doesn’t mean intimacy has to disappear. With open communication, medical guidance, and a focus on comfort and safety, you and your partner can navigate this journey together. When in doubt, always consult your healthcare provider for personalized advice.
