How to satisfy your husband's sex-fantasies

It is not our number one priority to satisfy our man’s every urge but let’s face it, it pleases us when we can please our man—more than we might want to admit. Would you like to knock his socks off? Caution, it gets steamy up ahead…

Do yourself a favour, turn yourself on

It can certainly take awhile to get our steamers-a-working. Sure, your man can and will do what it takes to get you there but if you could spring a D.I.Y, he’d be delighted and aroused too.

As sex therapist Gloria Brame, PhD reveals: "A number of women still believe that it's solely a man's job to arouse them, to have a really fulfilling sexual experience though, you have to put some effort into getting yourself into a sexual state of mind."

Don’t be shy, go on a self-pleasuring trip. Even better, do it in front of your husband. That’s a sure fire way to turn him on too.

Drop hints, guide him gently

Men can’t read minds and they certainly can’t decipher the complicated desires and longings of a woman. Some men even wish they have ESP—in this case it would be ExtraSensual Perception, so that they can pleasure you till the "O" state.

Sandor Gardos shares: "A guy loves it when you're able to guide him without barking out orders.

"For positive reinforcement that he is indeed hitting the right spot go ahead and, "tell him how good it feels when he does something right, or remind him of a technique that always gets you off," explains Gloria Brame.

She adds: "If he's not giving you enough foreplay, ask him to use his hand or mouth to warm you up, saying that you want to draw out the experience." Erotic instructions can be well…erotic!

He just wants to watch the action

It can be so simple—just give them an eyeful! Men enjoy watching the action. It’s such a great view when you get on top, straddle him with your voluptuous assets-- "BAM" right in his face.

Men are very visual creatures--so get graphic! Go get a mirror if possible and see yourselves going at it like you were starring in an R-rated flick.

Leave something for the imagination, that’s where sexy lingerie plays its part. It builds the anticipation.

Eric Robinson, 40, an IT manager says: "I'd love to have sex with my wife in the kitchen & gardens full of sunlight wearing nothing but an apron & stockings, while the kids are gone for school trip or visiting their grand parents."

Are you a naughty girl? *Spank

You may be a naughty, naughty girl but you’re holding back because you don’t want him to think you’re dirty. Think again.

Gloria Brame spills: "Women are often afraid to get naughty in a relationship, because they don't want to shatter any 'good girlfriend/wife' image he has or they don't want him to think they're weird. But men want to see that no-holds-barred side of you — they just don't want to offend you by asking for it."

Show him that you want him, perhaps all the time—anytime, anywhere, anyhow. Grab him… hard, show him what you’ve got.

Jimmy N, 26, a network administrator says: "I want it rough, like walk into room and have her grab me, tear my clothes off and throw me on to the bed and make love to me like she’s never done before."

Initiate a brand new position or try something out of the ordinary. Go to the sex shop and get a toy or two—just for kicks.

“PHHWOARR, what just happened?”

Put your wild on so that he can’t get you out of his head the next day. You may have mastered several techniques, time to aim for something that he’s never seen.

Sandor Gardos says: "You'll win big sexual points with your guy if you spring sex on him out of the blue. It gives him a huge ego boost by reinforcing the fact that you're really hot for him."

After family dinner, pull over at a deserted stretch for a romp by the road. Get animalistic and spring a surprise attack on him at a formal party, pleasure him under the table and lead him to quiet place for the full-fledged action.

Switch it up to up the tingle factor on top of that spontaneous seduction. Variation in speed, pressure, position and place—it can be as simple as that. Come up with your own signature move, throw the Kama Sutra out the window and create your own sex book.

Remember, variety keeps him in a heightened state of arousal because he won’t know what to expect. Blindfold him and alternate between oral sex and intercourse…it could be fun.

Let him TAKE you

Your guy needs assurance that you want him to take you and do whatever he desires with you. Look him coyly in the eye and let him know—"I am all yours; ravage me".

When getting it on you can urge him to go "harder", "faster" or "deeper" if he’s too soft in his handling. It’s even better if you ask him to rip your clothes off, for that extra "raw" effect.

Sometimes, he desires to kick back, relax and do nothing

This simply means you take the wheel and drive. Guys love that you have your way with them occasionally. Here’s a tip: strip him naked, lay him down, tie him up with a fancy scarf and treat him to a full-body titillation session avoiding the target but finally, when you are both ready, do a reverse-cow girl.

He can’t do anything but watch. Need we say more?

Written by

Felicia Chin

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