An Open Letter to the Dad Who Feels Guilty for Working Too Much

"You weren't built to take on everything alone. So don't beat yourself up if you feel like you're failing."

Dear Hardworking Dad,

If you’ve ever felt like you’re trying to do too much but still lack true fulfillment, take a minute to relax.

Sometimes pouring everything you have on your career is the only option to give your family the comfort and security they deserve but don’t forget to take care of yourself, too.

It’s tough to want to provide stability and strength in the home by doing well in your chosen career while trying to be a mentor and role model to your kids.

You can’t be with your kids 24/7 but during the times that you do spend time with them, remember to be present and fully invested in the moment.

Don’t let guilt rob you of the ability to fully immerse yourself in your rare opportunity to bond and get to know them.

Your hard work and sacrifices have not gone unnoticed, trust me.

My dad is a hardworking man. Growing up, I had to deal with how he would be gone for months on end working abroad; though I missed him, every time he would come home, it would be like Christmas and my birthday in one.

I never felt like we lacked for anything because made up for his prolonged absences with warmth, affection, and his undivided attention.

Don’t be afraid to admit you need help

The simple act of owning up to feeling lost or uncertain can lift a weight off your shoulders.

Your partner is there because you are collaborators in this life. Maintain that openness even if how you feel embarrasses you.

Making more time doesn’t mean neglecting your day job, don’t get me wrong but it’s about prioritizing and doing away with the unnecessary.

You weren’t built to take on everything alone. So don’t beat yourself up if you feel like you’re failing.

You’re doing a good job

No parent is perfect. But if you wake up each day motivated to better the lives of your wife and kids, then that alone makes you a winner.

Applying the same dedication to the home as you do with the workplace is a tall order but it is not impossible.

Once achieved, though, it will help your children grow into their best selves. And that promise alone will set you on the path to true fulfillment.

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Written by

Bianchi Mendoza

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