Breastfeeding in public often happens when a mum needs to feed their baby. Most of the time, mothers breastfeed in public places while with their partners or loved ones. You possibly encountered fellow nursing mums feeding their infants in places like restaurants or shopping centres.
Some people show support for women who breastfeed in public. They believe that the more breastfeeding is done in public areas, the more normal it will become.
Despite this notion, there are still mothers who feel uncomfortable breastfeeding in public places. Most surveys claim that 1 out of 10 mums choose not to nurse their baby or toddler at home. Several women take steps to hide it in public as they are embarrassed and uncomfortable doing so.
On the other hand, mums who don’t mind nursing in public usually face criticism from people around them. They either get called out or shamed for breastfeeding even if the mum hides her boob well. This happened to a mum on Reddit who wanted to breastfeed her child at a restaurant.
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A Mum Was Shamed for Breastfeeding Her Child in Public
A mum of a 2-year-old child shares how people shamed her for breastfeeding in public. The incident happened when she was out for lunch with her two kids.
According to the woman, her son recently just turned two and is very small for his age. Even though her son was already two years old, she was still breastfeeding him. It isn’t a rare case because doctors recommend breastfeeding babies for up to 2 years.
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On that day, they were out for lunch, but her 2-year-old child was fussing and wanted her to feed him. She attempted to calm him down with a pacifier, but it didn’t work. She was left with her last option of breastfeeding her toddler on the spot.
“I knew he’d calm instantly,” the mum said.
During that time, the woman said that the restaurant where they had their lunch was reasonably full. She also added that the people seated at the table next to them kept staring and talking about her.
Another diner at the restaurant loudly exclaimed their discomfort over the mum’s breastfeeding. This further drove the mum on the verge of tears. No one talked to her directly; she couldn’t explain why she had to do it.
Is It Now Only Acceptable to Feed a Newborn?
She was aware that the people around her were as uncomfortable as she was during that time, trying to breastfeed her child. The woman was already embarrassed for nursing his child in public, but others made the situation worse by shaming her.
According to the woman, “The other table made a remark and stated that he was far too old and that I was putting them off their dinner as they felt sick.”
The person who said that did not say it directly to the breastfeeding mum. Instead, the person says it loud enough for the woman to hear it clearly.
“I was absolutely mortified,” the breastfeeding mum explained. “I am extremely discreet when I feed him.”
According to her, she breastfeeds her 2-year-old child in a way that people cannot see any boob or her child’s mouth. She had no choice because she was alone with her two children. The mother could not leave the table because she could not leave her other child alone to eat her food.
“I was holding back tears,” she said. “Is it now only acceptable to feed a newborn?”
After sharing her experience, the woman felt relieved as soon as she read comments of people who understood her situation. Other people sympathise with her, while others cheer her up.
Is it OK to Breastfeed in Public in Singapore
Breastfeeding in public is generally accepted and protected by law in Singapore. The country recognises the importance of breastfeeding for infants and mothers and has taken steps to ensure that breastfeeding mothers are supported and not discriminated against.
The Nursing Mothers’ Act, enacted in 2017, guarantees the right of a mother to breastfeed in public places without being asked to leave or cover up. This legal protection has helped to create a more supportive environment for breastfeeding mothers in Singapore, allowing them to comfortably and confidently nurse their babies wherever they are.
Is Singapore a Breastfeeding-Friendly Country?
Singapore is making strides to become a breastfeeding-friendly country. You’ll find a growing number of establishments and public spaces that are supportive of breastfeeding mothers. Many shopping malls, airports, and public transportation hubs offer dedicated breastfeeding rooms equipped with comfortable seating, changing tables, and privacy screens.
For instance, Changi Airport features multiple nursing rooms, some even equipped with cosy lounges and play areas for older children. Singapore’s public transport network, such as the MRT stations, also provides nursing rooms for mothers on the go.
These efforts reflect a positive shift in creating an environment where breastfeeding moms can feel comfortable and supported while nourishing their little ones.
How Do You Feel About Breastfeeding in Public?
If you catch a mum breastfeeding in public, you need to understand their reason for doing so. In truth, many women feel uncomfortable with breastfeeding their infant in front of other people besides their partner.
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It is embarrassing and uncomfortable for some women to nurse a child while a relative or friend is around, even in their own home. Even more so in areas away from home, like cafes or shopping centres.
Breastfeeding in public could be embarrassing at first. However, they say you can also be confident doing it once you get used to it.
Mums who choose to breastfeed in public often do it because they’re left with no choice. Additionally, it’s one of the best ways to calm their infants or toddlers.
In our TAP community, mums shared a range of views on this matter. Many feel at ease breastfeeding publicly while using a nursing cover, while some opt for private nursing rooms. On the other hand, a few mums find the idea uncomfortable.
Naturally, there’s a group of confident women who prioritise their baby’s and their own comfort, brushing aside any negative opinions.
“I breastfeed everywhere. Haha.. in restaurants, while walking around in shopping centres/zoo/open air areas, etc. I use a nursing cover, more for the sake of other people, because they don’t know how to accept breastfeeding mothers.” – Cherlyn, mum of 2
“Yes, in public places and without a cover.” – Joanne, mum of 1
“Not comfortable. I would prefer a nursing room.” – Toch, mum of 1
“I don’t do it with a cover. One, my baby sweats and it is uncomfortable for her, it is tedious for me, and me and my fiance believe this is the most natural thing in life, a mother feeding her baby and nothing to be ashamed of and people should keep their harmful words to themselves.” – Diane, mum of 2
“I try not to breastfeed in public places cause I don’t think it’s hygienic. If I have to, I’ll look for a breastfeeding room and with cover.” – Adlina, mum of 3
Tips on How to Breastfeed in Public Without the Awkward Feeling
We totally get that nursing in public can sometimes feel a bit daunting. But don’t worry, we’ve got your back with these tips to help you breastfeed confidently on the go:
1. Know Your Rights
Remember, you have the right to breastfeed in public without feeling uncomfortable. In Singapore, it’s against the law for anyone to ask you to leave a public place just because you’re nursing. The Singapore Police Force even confirms that as long as you’re dressed decently and not exposing more than necessary, you’re in the clear.
2. Plan Ahead and Dress Smart
Think ahead and consider where you’ll be comfortable nursing when your little one gets hungry. Opt for breastfeeding-friendly clothes that make the process easier. Loose tops that can be easily lifted, along with soft, non-underwired bras, can be a game-changer. You can also use baby slings, scarves, or clothing to help you breastfeed discreetly.
3. Skip the Restrooms
You wouldn’t eat your meal in a public restroom, so why should your baby? Don’t feel pressured to feed your little one in an uncomfortable place. Seek out breastfeeding-friendly spaces or dedicated nursing stations instead. Many places now offer specialised areas to make breastfeeding more comfortable.
Feeling totally alone in this situation? That should not be the case. Let’s take a minute to educate the men on how they can be breastfeeding advocates for us and our little ones.
Dads’ Role in Supporting Breastfeeding in Public: 5 Tips
Hey, dads! When it comes to breastfeeding in public, your support can make a huge difference for your partner. Here are five ways you can be there for her:
1. Show Appreciation: Let her know how much you value what she’s doing. Ask if she’s comfortable or if there’s anything you can do to make public breastfeeding more convenient.
2. Be Discreet: Avoid staring. It’s essential not to make her feel uncomfortable or sexualised while she’s focusing on nourishing your baby.
3. Respect Her Choices: While you might think a cover is a good idea, remember that her priority is feeding the baby, not concerns about modesty. If she prefers not to use a cover, support her decision.
4. Be Flexible: Support her choice, whether she prefers to use a cover or not. Let her take the lead on what she’s comfortable with.
5. Assist in Other Ways: Help out by ordering food, getting her a drink, retrieving items from her bag, or keeping your other kids engaged. This way, she can concentrate on feeding while you take care of the rest.
Men, your understanding and support mean the world during this beautiful journey of parenthood.
Remember, mum, you’re doing an amazing job taking care of your little one. So, nurse away with confidence, wherever you are!
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