7 Ways To Cope With An Unexpected Pregnancy
Pregnancy news after much planning would be reason for celebration. However, an unexpected pregnancy could be bad news. Here's how to cope!
7 ways to cope with an unexpected pregnancy
Congratulations! You are with child! But what if you were not expecting it? Let’s address some of the main concerns and questions you may have over your surprise pregnancy:
1. I will hate being pregnant
It’s very common to have mixed feelings about pregnancy. Stories about morning sickness, mood swings and lethargy do not make it sound appealing but you should not feel guilty for not feeling overjoyed.
Your body will transform to accommodate the miracle growing inside you. Embrace the idea that you have the ability to bring forth life! How is that for empowering?
2. Will I be a good mother?
Even seasoned mothers wonder about their maternal capabilities and it would be worrying if a mother did not doubt herself once in awhile.
As soon as you give birth your maternal instincts will kick in once you get to know yourself and your newborn. There are many support groups, get connected and link up with other mothers. You are not alone.
3. What if pregnancy ruins my figure?
Being vain does not mean you are being selfish or superficial. We are all used to having control over our bodies and the thought of having a baby inside you for nine months can be scary. If you still feel a bit self-conscious we recommend some pregnancy beauty tips here.
4. What happened to my birth control?
Any form of birth control is not foolproof. Condoms have a high chance of breaking and pills can fail if you don’t take them on time. But don’t feel that you’ve made a mistake or screwed up in some way. Allow yourself time to let accept the fact that you’re pregnant. It's not such a bad thing, you know?
5. My husband does not want kids (or another kid)
Maybe your husband feels that this is not the right time to have a child or that another child was not part of the plan. Talk to your husband about any financial and emotional concerns you have so that resentment does not build up between the both of you. Communication is key!
6. The thought labour scares me
Some well-meaning friends and family members may feel the need to tell you about their delivery-room experiences. These stories will only make you more worried. Only you will know what your own birth will feel like.
7. I didn’t want to get pregnant so soon
A surprise pregnancy creates anxiety and you may wonder if you can handle another child in your life. But there’s no sure way to predict when a woman will get pregnant. Don’t feel guilty for feeling anxious -- it’s completely normal.
A surprise pregnancy brings out feelings of different emotions and it is within your right to feel overwhelmed by the news. Remember that this is the start of a wonderful journey for you. Never forget, we are here for you!