10 things happy mums never do

Is happiness inevitable? As we all know, no. There are still hard things in life, normal things, crazy times and more, but these 10 things will certainly help in the journey to have those moments within the day where you can simply laugh and be grateful for your motherhood story.

Click Next to know the 10 things loving and happy mums never do.

Base self-worth on other’s opinions

Happiness that is dependent on what other’s think of you is happiness that will never appear. The truth is that there will be others that might not like you, might not like how you parent, might think you’re making the wrong education choices, feeding the wrong food, and on and on and on.

So much of motherhood is being confident in your own choices that the opinions of others can simply be that, opinions.

Expect the perfect day

It just won’t happen (and you’ll never be perfect anyway – motherhood means constantly refining). If happiness came from the house staying clean, from the laundry being folded and put away, from the kids never fighting, from dinner that was stellar without crazy cleanup, with no financial issues or relationship drama, then truth be told, happiness will never come. Expect a real day and be grateful for the happy little moments within it!

Gossip about other mums

Simply don’t. Please, please, please don’t. Gossip doesn’t help anyone. No one. It doesn’t help you nor does it help the mums that you’re talking about. All gossip does is chip away at happiness as it makes you compare, contrast, and judge. So no gossiping.

Base success on the state of the home

So tough, really, but true. When you have kids in your home, your home will probably look like you have kids living in your home. You can have it spotless at 8am only to look like you never cleaned by 8:15am. Kids do that. Do what you can. Keep it clean.

But, you know, kids like to dump stuff out, mix paints, colour on things, and create things. And that? That means a mess often. Your success isn’t based on the throw pillows always being on the couch in the right order and remember neither is your happiness.

Live in regret

You’re going to make mistakes. You’ll bake the cookies wrong, you’ll forget appointments, you’ll yell even though you promised yourself you never would, you’ll put things off and not get things done and on and on. Living in regret will chip away at the happiness that you will find in today.

Worry about making wrong choices

Listen – there are a million choices out there about almost everything you could be doing as a mom. Want to buy a pacifier? Now, instead of just three choices, there is an entire aisle full of choices. The choices can overwhelm and that, well, that worry, that’s not happiness. So make your best choice, move on, and let worry go.

Forget about themselves

Do not lose yourself in motherhood. Don’t lose sight of your dreams, your passions, and all the things that make you super unique. Burying all of that can lead to resentment of motherhood.

So find time to run, paint, sing, create, write, or whatever your passion truly is. Moms need some indulgence from time to time, and if that means a massage or a longer hot shower, then so be it.

Play the martyr

Okay, tough love here, but we all know a martyr and martyrs are simply no fun. I know it can be easy to play a martyr without even realising that your are doing it, but here’s what you need to do - speak up for yourself.

If things don’t go your way or you miss something, go on and simply try to be positive. Being positive leads to happiness, playing martyr leads to crabbiness and really crabby kids. Choose wisely.

Race through everything

The to-do list will never be completed. There will always be one more thing to do but not always one more four-year-old to read a story to. Happy mums choose to take moments in the afternoon to read and they don't feel guilty about it. They know that eventually, the dishes will get done, the laundry finished, and the carpet vacuumed.

Fight every battle

Not every battle needs to be fought. If the three-year-old gets themselves dressed and the shirt is on backwards and you’re just going to the super market, then leave the shirt that way -- you all will probably end up having a real laugh about it later. There are battles that need to be fought, and there are others that you can let go of.

Letting go of so much of the minutia of perfection opens up moments of joy within the day. It gives space for laughter, for times with our kids, and it truly gives you, the mom, grace.

Republished with permission from: Findingjoy.net

Written by

Rachel Martin

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