We’ve always discussed what a mum feels – both emotionally and physically – during pregnancy, labour and birth. We understand her anxieties, her discomfort, her emotions and more because there is just so much that has been studied and written about all of these.
What a woman feels during labour and birth are perhaps the most talked about topics in a woman’s journey to become a mother, even more so than pregnancy.
But, have you ever stopped to think about what your baby might feel as he is born? Does it hurt? Does he feel excitement, sadness, joy or even pain? Mummy is able to take pain relief for the contraction, but what about baby, when he is being squeezed through the birth canal?
Food for thought, isn’t it? Which is why we help you understand what the other person involved in the birthing process feels.
Your little baby feels your contractions…
Labour and birth: What baby feels
“Mummy, I feel your contractions”
You might think you are the only one who feels contractions, but your little darling knows when you get contractions too.
This is reflected by his little heart beating faster during those big squeezes. During contractions, your baby also receives slightly less oxygen, but he is well equipped to deal with this, sometimes even snoozing right through.
It is because your little one feels your uterus squeezing around him that his heart rate is constantly monitored when you are in labour. A drop in your little one’s heart rate may indicate he is in distress and he might pass meconium while still inside your womb if this happens.
But Mummies, also remember that when you go into labour, you produce a lot of the ‘love hormone’ oxytocin – and this helps baby stay calm and happy.
How you can help baby: yes, contractions might be tough, but your baby is so in tune with your emotions that your stress can stress him out too. Use techniques such as visualisation (e.g. visualise your ‘happy place’) to help keep calm, which in turn will keep bubs stress-free too.
As your contractions become more intense, baby gets pushed down the birth canal and may react to this sensation in various ways.
“I’m moving down the birth canal, Mummy!”
As your contractions become more intense and closer together, baby’s head moves closer and closer to the birth canal, where it will soon get lodged.
Now, with your contractions happening hard and fast, your baby definitely feels the uterine walls squeezing around him. But experts say it is unlikely that he experiences this sensation as pain.
“It appears that the neural connections that would lead a baby to interpret sensations as ‘pain’ may not be developed at the time of labour,” says Dr Anne Deans, a consultant in obstetrics and gynaecology at Frimley Park Hospital in Surrey, England.
How you can help your baby: focus on your breathing so that baby gets plenty of oxygen to help him get through the final ‘big push’.
“I’m almost with you, Mummy…”
You will be completely focussed on pushing by now. Your baby is doing his very best to squeeze and move his way through the birth canal with each push. While some babies experience a more difficult journey (e.g. breech, posterior and transverse babies), all babies are physiologically prepared for their journey.
“Because the plates of his skull aren’t fixed, his skull is able to ‘mould’ to the shape of the birth canal as he travels through it,” explains Dr Anne Deans, a consultant in obstetrics and gynaecology at Frimley Park Hospital in Surrey, England.
How you can help your baby: use gravity to make his journey a little easier. When you lie passively on your back during labour, for your baby, it’s like pushing uphill. But if you are semi-reclining, on all-fours, or in water, baby’s experience is made easier.
“I’m here, I’m your baby…” Image Credit: Kailee Riches Photography, via Birth Becomes Her
“Just a bit more!”
You might feel a burning sensation as baby’s head crowns. While this is painful, it’s also very good news because it means that in a few minutes, you’ll be holding your sweet baby in your arms.
Your baby is feeling a very tight sensation by now and is getting ready to breathe once he comes into the world. Dr Deans says:
“The pressure on your baby’s body as he squeezes through the narrow birth canal is actually helpful in preparing him to live outside the uterus. The compression expels fluid and mucus from his lungs and also prevents him from breathing and inhaling fluid and blood as he passes through the birth canal. This all helps to prepare him to take his first breath.”
If your little one is born into a cold, bright environment, he could possibly feel shock. In contrast, a dimly-lit, soothing environment will calm him.
How you can help your baby: ask for immediate skin-to-skin contact with baby after birth. By doing this, you help to regulate his heart and respiratory rate, keep him snug, and get him ready for that all-important first latch at your breast.
The importance of skin-to-skin contact
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The moment a baby is born is nothing short of magical. As new life enters the world, taking its first breath, the immediate actions taken during those initial minutes can profoundly affect both mother and child for years to come. One of the most powerful practices during this critical time is skin-to-skin contact, where the naked newborn is placed directly on the mother’s bare chest.
What is skin-to-skin contact?
Skin-to-skin contact, often referred to as “kangaroo care,” involves holding the baby against the mother’s skin immediately after birth. This simple yet intimate act initiates a cascade of positive effects that are beneficial for both baby and mother.
What your baby feels during birth
As your baby emerges, they experience a rush of sensations. The pressure of contractions gives way to a sudden release. Cool air touches their skin for the first time, and their lungs expand as they take their first breath. The cacophony of sounds – voices, machines, and other unfamiliar noises – can be startling after months of muffled sounds in the womb.
The comfort of skin-to-skin contact
This is where skin-to-skin contact becomes a crucial bridge between your baby’s familiar world and their new reality. When placed on their mother’s chest immediately after birth, your baby experiences a host of comforting sensations that echo their time in the womb.
The warmth of your skin helps regulate their body temperature, mimicking the consistent warmth they’re accustomed to. Your heartbeat, a familiar sound they’ve heard for months, continues to soothe them. The scent of your skin, which they’ve come to know in utero, provides a sense of security and familiarity.
How your baby responds to skin-to-skin contact
From your baby’s perspective, this immediate skin-to-skin contact is like finding an oasis of comfort in a strange new world. Their stress levels decrease, and their body begins to stabilize. Your baby’s heart rate and breathing patterns become more regular, and their blood sugar levels stabilize.
Moreover, this close contact awakens your baby’s innate feeding instincts. The familiar scent of your skin guides them towards the breast, making that crucial first latch more likely to succeed. For your newborn, this is not just about nutrition – it’s about finding comfort and security in a world that’s suddenly much larger and more unpredictable than before.
The emotional journey for your baby
Beyond the physical benefits, skin-to-skin contact plays a crucial role in your baby’s emotional journey. The release of oxytocin – often called the “love hormone” – isn’t just for mothers. Your baby also experiences this hormone surge, which helps to create a sense of bonding and attachment.
From your baby’s perspective, this early bonding experience sets the tone for their understanding of the world. It tells them that despite the dramatic changes they’ve just undergone, they are safe, loved, and cared for.
Long-term effects: Your baby’s future self
The impact of this early skin-to-skin contact extends far beyond those first moments. Research suggests that babies who experience immediate skin-to-skin contact often display better emotional regulation as they grow older. They tend to have improved cognitive development and stronger bonds with their parents.
In essence, those first moments of skin-to-skin contact are laying the groundwork for your baby’s future emotional and cognitive health. It’s as if your touch is telling your baby, “Welcome to the world. You’re safe here, and you’re loved.”
A gentle welcome to the world
Understanding childbirth from your baby’s perspective highlights the profound importance of skin-to-skin contact. It’s not just a nice-to-have practice; it’s a crucial component of easing your baby’s transition into the world.
By providing immediate skin-to-skin contact, you’re giving your baby a gentle welcome to the world. You’re easing their stress, regulating their bodily functions, and setting the stage for a lifetime of healthy development and strong emotional bonds.
So, the next time you hold your newborn close, remember — from your baby’s point of view, your touch is more than just comforting. It’s their first experience of love, security, and belonging in this big new world.
So there it is, mums. Will we ever stop wondering at the miracle of birth? I think not!
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