When a woman loses interest in her husband, it mostly means he doesn't know how to turn a woman on. Most of the men that I encounter don't believe it when I say they lack technique.
In truth, sex is more than just doing it. The pleasure and joy need to be experienced by all parties involved. And yes, we mean all parties if you want to explore more options.
Unfortunately, after marriage and bearing children, the intimate act starts to become mundane. To some, it starts to feel like a chore; this especially applies to women.
With that said, I compiled some of the advice I gathered in my experience as a sex-positive woman. Most of these accounts come from partners who know exactly how to turn a woman on. You can use these tips to add rekindle the passion in your bedroom!
11 Ways to Turn a Woman On
It is easier for guys to get aroused quickly. It is in their nature. For women, it is a bit more difficult. And needless to say, sex is no fun at all if one of you is not that into it. So, here are some quick tips to get your woman in the mood!
Go Beyond the Bare Minimum
You will certainly attract your wife if you go beyond the bare minimum. This means that husbands need to know when to compromise tasks at home.
Show that you love your wife every day by learning about her needs. Additionally, help her out with daily tasks and chores at home without waiting for her to ask.
There is nothing that turns on a woman more than a guy who isn't shy to scrub the dishes. If you are feeling adventurous, cook as well.
Here is a recipe so simple that even babies can make it. And it does not make you feel bloated, so what follows after is not uncomfortable.
Tease Her With a Morning Sexts
Don't be embarrassed with teasing your wife about your sensual plans later at night. Sending morning sexts is all about spicing things up.
Simple messages promising that you'll make tonight extra special excites most women. If you start the sexts, you may learn about what your wife hopes to experience for your fun night.
Additionally, informing her that you already asked someone to watch over the kids will excite her even more. Make the night all about her and your intimate plans.
Find Someone to Watch Your Kids for the Night
Send them to bed early or just pack them off to the grandparents. Whatever works! Getting the kids out of the way makes sex sexier as they are a constant reminder of what sex can lead to!
If you take the initiative to find someone to watch over your children, your wife will love it. The act simply shows that you care about focusing on your intimate night together.
Behave and Let Her Take the Lead
For the night (and if possible, always), be the perfect gentleman and not fart or burp in front of her. And if you want to, make it funny at the least!
For this suggestion, we encourage husbands to listen to what their wives want. Get rid of your masculine image and let her take the lead. Depending on your wife's preferences, we suggest you open up to trying different foreplay or sensual moves you haven't tried.
Treat Them With Expensive Food and Drinks
Go for a good white wine to go with the pasta. Or if she is not sure about wines, a Moscato never fails. Just make sure that you do not start on an empty stomach.
Moreover, some liquid courage heats up your and your wife's body. This adds to the much-needed heat you want for a passionate night.
Heat Things Up With a Sensual Massage
You can certainly turn a woman on when you add massages to your sensual play. With it, you get the chance to observe and check the pleasure spots of your beloved wife or partner.
The first rule of a massage is, don't make it painful. The objective is to turn a woman on by making her relax, so use:
- Fingers for lower pressure
- Thumbs for moderate pressure
- Side of the palm for deep pressure
DO NOT use your elbows or knees for giving a massage. This is not wrestling. Moreover, we urge you to use lubrication.
Meanwhile, you may use warm baby oil or special massage lubes. This intimate act turns a woman on because you make them feel loved by helping them relax.
With these rules in mind, gently (or deeply) massage the three points starting with the neck. Do it in dim lights for a better effect.
Spice Things Up in the Bedroom
Arrange your bedroom to spice things up. When you make the effort to set a sensual scene, it will certainly attract your wife's fancy.
It may sound cheesy but there's nothing wrong with sprinkling roses on your bed. Additionally, you can light up scented candles to establish a more sensual mood.
Choose the Right Music to Set the Scene
Light instrumental or heavy metal, snoop into her phone if you don't know what she digs. Playing her music relaxes her much faster than even general anaesthesia.
Always Do Foreplay
Women are more than what pornography has taught you. Use your instinct and have long intimate foreplay to turn a woman on.
Additionally, I encourage you to explore what type of foreplay excites her. You can surprise her with toys or positions that you haven't tried before.
Focus on the Things That Please Her
Use your fingers, tongue, teeth, and lips to get her the first of the three orgasms that you promised her in the morning. Observe her reactions and go back to the spots that get the most reactions.
During this time, we encourage the men to undress. This act incites more excitement because the act of undressing pleases most women before doing the deed.
Alternatively, you can let her undress you. If you decide to do this, allow her to be in control by putting your hands behind your back. However, if she leans back, take it as an invitation to undress her.
Establish a Rhythm Together
It is possible to turn on the lady even more during the act. Build up a rhythm, an ache that you need to fulfil. Go from slow to fast, not the other way around.
If she is into it, she can stimulate herself while you are doing your job. Let her come once more. The last orgasm is one's own responsibility. Work towards yours and ask her to work towards her.
Dads, sex need not be dull and mundane. Remember, if you do it right, you should be doing it for the next 40-50 years. So keep it sizzling!
This article was updated by Kaira De la Rosa.