A couple was sentenced to death for beating and torturing their four-year-old daughter until she died. The brutality didn’t end with the baby’s death. Her parents kept the child’s body in a freezer for a week.
A court in Kuwait sentenced the couple, father, Salem Buhan, 26, and mother, Amira Hussain, 23, after it found them guilty of torturing their daughter to death.
Toddler killed by parents: tortured till death then frozen
According to sources, the investigation department got a tip about a suspicious murder in a flat in the Salmiya area in Kuwait City. On searching the flat, investigators found a bag in the freezer. Here, they found the frozen body of a young girl. The parents had brutally murdered the child in front of her three younger siblings.
Forensic doctors revealed that the body had burns on the shoulders and feet, says a report. Salem eventually confessed that he scalded her with hot water and beat her with an electrical wire for her negligence. He added that when he saw her deteriorating condition, he went down to a pharmacy for medicine, but she passed away.
Parents under the influence of narcotics
Further investigations revealed that both Salem and Amira were under the influence of drugs. Salem had been fired from work for showing up in an abnormal state. The parents were extremely negligent in the upbringing of their children.
To make matters worse, the flat was disorganised and dirty. A statement issued by the interior ministry said that both parents were on drugs at the time of the murder.
Control your temper, not just your child
Salem and Amira clearly needed rigorous medical supervision, more than tips on being a gentle parent as theirs was a case of drugs overruling the senses.
However, even in normal circumstances, we as parents are bound to lose our temper over issues that in hindsight seem silly. So, how exactly do we get a grip on the temper, especially when the child is really testing your patience?
From one parent to another, here are some effective tips on dealing with temper whilst disciplining a child:
- Stop saying stop. The more you try to control them, the harder they fight back. For example, don’t stop them from ruining the wall with their art-work. Instead place an art-kit in front of them and ask them to make a special something for his friend or a favourite teacher. It’s a win-win! My daughter has a scrapbook full of her art-work and I have clean walls.
- Ask the right questions. If your child is acting difficult and you can sense that your temper is about to flare up, take a deep breath. Consider why he is doing whatever he is doing. Is it boredom or fatigue? Or is he in pain? Cater to his need instead of your anger.
- Empathise and then reason. Most often we tend to talk down with that little human who has pushed all possible buttons and made us mad. Try speaking to your child as an adult. Once I made my child believe that she too had a say in the scheme of things, the rebel-without-a-cause in her mellowed down.
- Plan your day; include leeways. Who doesn’t like plans being executed to perfection? But how often does it actually happen? Plan your day with a pinch of reality and a wedge of ‘worst-case-scenario’ in place. If we can make leeways for that sudden plan made by the spouse, then rescheduling your plan-of-action for your child is just fair.
- Take a walk. No, we really mean that! The moment you feel the temper rise in you, grab your jacket and head out for a walk. It’s pouring outside and a walk is out of question? Pace up and down your room. Remember that walking helps release the happy hormones – endorphins.
While your child may not magically start behaving himself, you definitely will be in a calmer state of mind as you face him in his meltdown moments.
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