Mums-to-be ask, “Is it possible to have an orgasm when pregnant? And is it safe? “
Are you pregnant and feeling very horny? Yes, you probably are and it’s no surprise given the swirl of hormones and emotions in your body right now.
But at the same time, you might be just a bit worried about having sex, especially climaxing, out of concern that it might ‘hurt’ your baby.
Well, you can brush those fears away!
Benefits of Getting An Orgasm During Pregnancy
Having sex during pregnancy “is good for your body, your body image, your heart rate, your relationship,” says sex educator and best-selling author of the book Hot Mamas, Lou Paget. She explains,
“The benefits of [sex] are the same as when you’re not pregnant — and then some.”
And when it comes to orgasm during pregnancy, as long as you know that you have a normal pregnancy – you are not at risk for premature labour or other complications – then, by all means, go for the big O.
Climaxing during pregnancy is great for a few reasons.
- Many women experience intense orgasms, even multiple times, during pregnancy. This is because in pregnancy, your pelvic and vaginal regions are engorged with blood (blood + O2 = orgasms), giving rise to extreme pleasure when you climax, making pregnancy orgasm so attainable.
- You are extra horny anyway. Because of increased levels of hormones in your body such as progesterone and oestrogen, you crave more sex. Not to mention those gorgeously full breasts which are a major turn-on to your partner. The biggest reason though – you don’t have to worry about birth control!
- Orgasms relax you, and with the added anxieties that many pregnant mums may experience, this is indeed a good reason to climax. Loralei Thornburg, a U.S.-based specialist in Maternal Fetal Medicine explains, “Sex is relaxing, so it helps you get to sleep.”
And now, to help you get down and dirty tonight (or tomorrow morning, or afternoon…), here are 4 sex positions that will help you climax, big time!
Pregnant Orgasm Sex Positions to Try
1. Spoon me, baby!
Here, you can either face each other and have your man enter you from the front (as he gazes into your beautiful eyes), or melt into your man so your bottom is nicely nestled into his pelvic area, giving him easy access to you (and your gorgeous breasts).
Front-facing spooning is easier when your belly is still small, and you can turn around when your belly grows larger. This position is super comfortable because weight is kept off your belly and your man is able to thrust deep, ensuring you climax.
And after you both climax, stay in the same position, cuddle up, and fall asleep. Win-win!
2. Ride your man
Ladies, this position gives you complete control to set the pace of your lovemaking. Your man has the added pleasure of seeing your gorgeous curves above him. And because you are in control, you can ride him exactly as you please so that you hit orgasm when you want to.
3. Living on the edge…
First, pile up some pillows to support your back. Then, lie on the edge of your bed and spread those sexy legs wide so your man can enter you. Remember to guide him according to the intensity of thrusting you can handle (this may depend on how pregnant you are) and you are sure to experience an amazing orgasm!
4. Sit up and listen, my love
Get yourself a comfy chair. Now, sway those sexy hips and lead your man to the chair. Get him to sit down. Tie him up (joke!). Straddle him, ease yourself down on him and control those moves. End result? Fireworks!
As mentioned earlier, having sex and getting an orgasm have major benefits for the mum-to-be. However, as with other things and activities when you’re pregnant, you always need to practise caution and stay on the safe side. Here are some points to remember while you’re doing the deed during pregnancy.
Pregnant Spotting After Orgasm
Panic takes over the feeling of pleasure once you realise that you are spotting after having an orgasm or after having sex. However, light spotting after intercourse does not automatically mean that your baby is in danger.
Sometimes, it’s because pregnancy hormones make the cervix drier than usual which may cause the blood vessels to rupture more easily. It can also be that the act of intercourse caused irritation in the vagina to result in light bleeding or spotting, which will look pink, light red, or brown. If it’s normal, it will usually resolve in a day or two.
However, contact your doctor without delay if the bleeding:
- lasts longer than 1 or 2 days
- becomes dark red or heavy (requiring you to use change pads frequently)
- coincides with cramps, fever, pain, or contractions
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Risks of Having Sex While Pregnant
What are the disadvantages of sex during pregnancy?
As mentioned earlier, unless you have a high-risk pregnancy and your doctor advises you against it, sex during pregnancy has a lot of positive effects. Going against your doctor’s orders may put you at risk for premature labour, cesarean delivery and complications to your pregnancy and your baby’s health.
If you’ve had bleeding before, sexual intercourse may increase the risk of further bleeding. Moreover, there are several positions and activities that are bad for your back and may be deemed unsafe such as positions where you lie flat on your back (not advisable for those 20 weeks pregnant and up) or ones that put pressure on your belly and constrict blood flow.
According to experts, sexual intercourse is not advisable for pregnant women who are:
- at risk for miscarriage or a history of past miscarriages
- at risk for preterm labour (contractions before 37 weeks of pregnancy)
- having vaginal bleeding, discharge, or cramping without a known cause
- whose amniotic sac is leaking fluid or has ruptured membranes
- whose cervix has opened too early in pregnancy
- whose placenta is too low in the uterus (placenta previa)
- expecting twins, triplets, or other “multiples”
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To continue enjoying sex while pregnant and keep having that pregnancy orgasm, make sure to practise safe sex during pregnancy, especially if you have multiple partners.
When to Stop Sex During Pregnancy
- you are in pain during and after having sex
- you are getting contractions
- you notice a decrease in foetal movement after having sex
- your waters have broken – it can increase the risk of infection (ask your midwife or doctor if you’re not sure whether your waters have broken)
- If there are any problems with the entrance to your womb (cervix) – you may be at a higher risk of going into early labour or having a miscarriage
Updates by Camille Eusebio
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