Doctor's views on sex during pregnancy

Will I enjoy sex when I am pregnant? Is there a reason why couples should avoid sex during this time? Dr Tan Eng Loy, Consultant, Department of Obstetrics & Gynaecology sheds some light to these pregnancy sex questions and more.

Sex without contraception leads to pregnancy. Upon getting pregnant, many couples may stop having sexual intercourse as they have achieved their “target”.

Some may also avoid sex during pregnancy for the fear of causing complications.

Sex during pregnancy – Will I actually enjoy sex when I am pregnant?

Ironically, sex during pregnancy can be more enjoyable for couples, even though they may do it less frequently.

In pregnancy, there is an increase in vaginal lubrication. Together with increased engorgement of the genital area, couples may find sex during pregnancy actually more pleasurable.

For couples that have been trying to get pregnant for a while, a return to sex for pleasure rather than to achieve pregnancy may make the process more enjoyable.

Reasons to avoid sex during pregnancy

There is no reason why couples should avoid sexual intercourse during pregnancy.

The National Institute for Clinical Excellence (NICE) in the United Kingdom advises that “sexual intercourse in pregnancy is not known to be associated with any adverse outcomes”.

With the exception of complications in pregnancy such as premature labour or bleeding in pregnancy, couples do not need to change or alter their sexual activity. Orgasm during pregnancy will not harm the baby. The baby is surrounded by amniotic fluid and the thick muscles of the womb that help to protect the baby. Therefore, sexual activity should not affect the baby.

Change in sexual desire in women

Some women find that their desire for sex can change while they are pregnant. Some experience an increase in sex drive, while others find themselves less interested in sex than before pregnancy. Obviously, as pregnancy progresses, changes in the size of the mother may mandate a change in position for comfort.

Even if pregnancy complications develop in which the doctor may advise against sex, remember to take time for intimacy with your partner. Intimacy does not require intercourse and will help couples to express their love and affection for one another.

Sex during pregnancy views by Dr Tan Eng Loy, Consultant, Department of Obstetrics & Gynaecology, Singapore General Hospital

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Roshni Mahtani