It’s been just over a month since local actor Desmond Tan and his wife welcomed their baby daughter and so far, he says that fatherhood has been “really fruitful and very fulfilling”.
Since postponing work until April to prepare for his baby’s birth in March, the 37-year-old told AsiaOne in a recent interview that he’s been a hands-on dad.
“I’m in-between two production periods so I have breathing space and can actually support my family,” he said. “It’s been a really magical experience.”
On returning to work soon, he added: “I do see myself stretching a little thinner. Honestly, I don’t really know what to expect because it’s also my first time being a father.
“At the same time, being a perfectionist and someone who really wants to push hard for every single role, I see myself having less sleep maybe. But I’ve been training over the past month for that.”
Calling himself a “kiasu Singaporean by nature”, Desmond said that he tried to plan extensively for the arrival of his daughter — from packing hospital supplies to decorating her nursery — but could “never be fully prepared”.
“The baby came two weeks ahead of time, so the nursery was not fully ready at home. There were some final touches I wanted to do, but didn’t manage to in time,” he shared.
“But the more crucial thing is the software, our hearts, which I felt were not exactly prepared for the baby. We were looking forward to it, but we didn’t really visualise the labour process and what things would be like.”
This was when Desmond’s habit of “just winging things” during his school days came in handy, he said.
“But I think babies are hardier than we think,” he added. “They have strong adaptability and I mean they’re warriors who fight to get into the world.”
Meanwhile, the other dog, 8-year-old Udon, took a while longer to come around, but Desmond said he’s stopped barking at the baby.
“He’s usually so barky when it comes to children, like whenever he hears a neighbour’s baby crying or screaming. And he was quite barky for the first week after the baby got home,” Desmond added.
“He couldn’t understand why we were holding onto a ‘teddy bear’ and got a little jealous, but since then he improved a lot.”
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