We’ve all heard the stereotypical jokes about wives overreacting and fault-finding. However, it is often the reasons why wives get upset and hurt in the first place that is overlooked. A lot of it has to do with husbands and their attitudes. So ladies, it really is his fault for getting you all riled up, to begin with. Here are 10 common mistakes husbands make that if avoided would make their wives and lives a lot happier. Do you recognise some of these mistakes?
1) Overly dominant
Not all women want to be submissive, and being a man doesn’t automatically mean that he has to have the upper hand in the relationship. Husbands should treat their wives as equals and not as junior partners. A husband should always include his wife in all decision-making and should ask her opinions on important matters too.
2) Unappreciative
Say “thank you”. Whether for a home-cooked meal, a new shirt or for buying him his favourite snack, husbands should consistently show and express their appreciation. One husband I know even thanks his wife every time she does his laundry and changes their sheets. Needless to say, his wife almost never nags and theirs continues to be a blissful marriage.
3) Not complimentary enough
Women love being complimented, and who better to compliment them than their husbands? A husband should not neglect to flatter his wife on her appearance, especially if she made a special effort to look good. Tell your wife how beautiful she is and tell her often. This lets her know you notice her.
4) Unapologetic
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During arguments, most husbands get defensive or walk out, even if they are the ones in the wrong. It doesn’t have to be a contest of who gives in first, but husbands who apologize always win. Men in happy marriages know that it is important to be able to accept that they are wrong and apologise for their mistakes.
5) Selfish during sex
No matter how tired a husband maybe, he should remember to cater to his wife’s sexual needs. Being sexually considerate will assure his wife that she is still loved and desired. A wife who is happy in bed is happy in general, and happy wife, happy life.
6) Unexpressive
Men are generally reticent about discussing their feelings, but bottling up your emotions is another mistake. A husband who wants an intimate relationship with his wife should talk about his emotions. Having open communication strengthens a marriage.
7) Hears but doesn’t listen
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Don’t make the mistake of thinking that hearing is the same as listening. Husbands should not only listen to their wives with their ears but also with their hearts and minds. There are times when a wife just needs to vent about her day, and her husband should hear her out with a sympathetic ear. He should not try to solve her problem or suggest a course of action. She just wants to be heard.
8) Shows disinterest
A husband who is genuinely interested in his wife’s work or hobby typically has a happier marriage. This is because he acknowledges her talents and the effort that she puts into her activities whether at home or at work. For many wives, the disinterest of their husbands in their lives is a common complaint. Take an interest in what your wife does, your attention flatters her.
9) Thinks his physical presence is enough
Husbands who think that their wives should just be happy that they are at home are looking for trouble. Wives want their husbands to be, not only physically present but emotionally present too. If a husband is home, he should see to it that he engages in activities with his wife, even if it is just doing chores. Find something you both enjoy doing and do it together.
10) Doesn’t help out
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Other than unscrewing over-tightened jars, there are plenty of ways husbands can contribute around the house. Wives may not ask for help, but they won’t decline it either. Don’t make the mistake of thinking there’s no way for you to help. The faster the chores are done, the sooner the playing can begin. Ask your wife if you can help her with something and then do it. Your marriage will be in a happier place for that little bit of extra effort.
Do you recognise some of these mistakes? Share your thoughts with us. We’d love to hear from you.
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