Talking to your kids about their private parts – important do’s and don’ts!

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Do your kids' questions about their private parts always leave you baffled or tongue-tied? What do you do when they start feeling themselves in public? There are better ways to deal with these situations than be embarrassed! Read on to find out our do's and don'ts when it comes to dealing with kids' questions about their privates!

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Talking to your kids about private parts: As your kid grows, the more inquisitive he becomes!

For many parents, sex education is a topic they’d rather avoid. And talking to their kids about their private parts would leave even the most confident and open parents tongue-tied.

But there will come a time when you just can’t avoid the subject anymore – and you shouldn’t. Curiosity about their body comes naturally to kids and they shouldn’t have to feel embarrassed about it.

This inquisitiveness starts as early as in infancy. I’m sure you have noticed your kid touch their own private parts when they’re naked – either when being changed or taking a bath.

This is a sign of natural curiosity. You were right not to pull their hand away. As they grow, the more curious they become.

Even though a small kid tugging at his private parts is normal, what do you do when your toddler does this in public?

By age 3 or 4, kids kids realize that boys and girls have different body parts. Also at around that age, you may walk in to discover your kid, undressed, playing ‘doctor’ with a buddy.

Your reaction to a situation like this is crucial. It’s so crucial that by your reaction you are teaching your child their actions are either ‘acceptable’ or ‘shameful’.

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When did playing ‘doctor’ get complicated?

Walking into a situation like the above might leave you baffled and you may not know how to react. We are here to help you out.

Here is a list of do’s and don’t that might help you when it comes to tackling this slightly tricky subject.

DO set limitations when it comes to ‘exploration’. In the above situation, it is best to divert the kids’ attention by saying something like ‘OK guys, let’s do some arts and crafts now, c’mon, get dressed’.

Don’t let the situation go un-addressed though. Talk to your kid after their friend leaves and tell them it’s OK to be curious about their body, but we need to keep our clothes on when we are out and when we have visitors.

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