8 things you should know about sex after baby

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Are you ready for great postpartum sex? Score in the bedroom with these tips and tricks to have enjoyable intimate lovemaking sessions again!

Welcome to the exciting world of parenthood new mummies and daddies!

Are you enjoying the sleepless nights, dirty diapers, and the responsibility of taking care of another tiny human being? Perhaps getting frisky with your partner is the last thing on your mind. Or perhaps you are ready to be intimate again.

But before you have sex after baby for the first time, there are some things that you should know.

Know when your body is ready

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Most doctors recommend waiting at least 6 weeks after giving birth to have sex after baby.

Most mothers who had natural deliveries are advised to wait until 6 weeks after giving birth to allow enough time to properly heal.

Those who had a C-section, episiotomy, tears, stiches, or other procedures might have to give it a few extra weeks more since there may still be some discomfort. The perineal area may also still be feeling slightly sore and sensitive, so just listen to your own body and give it a few more days or weeks before you plan your big romantic date night.

Emotional readiness may take time

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Don’t rush yourself into anything you are not ready for and give yourself some time to heal.

After having a baby, your hormones will still be out of sync until you start menstruating again, so this may affect your libido. Generally, your period should return around 4–12 weeks postpartum; but if you are breastfeeding, the delay may be much longer.

Also if you are feeling exhausted due to lack of sleep, uncomfortable with your post-baby body, and just generally overwhelmed while trying to adjust to motherhood, you just might not feel like being intimate anytime soon. It is not uncommon to feel this way, so don’t be too hard on yourself and just remember that you are allowed to take some time to heal physically and emotionally.

Your body will be different

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Nothing is sexier than being confident about yourself.

This is inevitable. Think about it,-: you carried a baby inside of you for 9 long months and your body has gone through one of the biggest changes of your life. Of course your body will never be what it once was; and even if you do get your pre-baby body back, it will take some time to get there.

Your breasts will feel sore and tender and after nursing your baby for the whole day, they might not feel very sexy to you. But it will help if you breastfeed or pump before having intercourse, so they won’t be so full and heavy, and it will prevent any surprising milk let-downs. If you had a natural birth, your vagina will be stretched out at first, but after a few days it will shrink back and start to gain some muscle tone—doing some Kegel exercises may help get it back to its original size and tautness.

You may not experience sex the same way as before

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Experiment with different positions and use topical lubricant to ease things along.

In the first 4-6 weeks postpartum, you will probably have less natural vaginal lubrication due to your decreased level of estrogen, so the dryness might make sex a little painful. Remember to take things slow, don’t skip out on the foreplay, and do consider using a lubricating cream or gel to help things along.

You should try different positions and experiment to find out what works for you because your body is different now and what felt good for you may not hit the spot anymore. Just have fun and enjoy exploring new things with you partner – you might surprise him and yourself!

What other things should you know about sex after baby? What are the precautions you should take note of? Find out more on the next page.

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