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As parents, we want our children to excel in their studies and be successful in life, so we feel it is our duty to encourage them to do their best.
A positive two-way communication between you and your child is important to build their self-esteem and for them to know that they can share their feelings with you, get some advice, and have a shoulder to cry on.
Being a pushy parent and excessively strict with your child may make them scared to open up to you about anything and you will miss out on hearing their inner most thoughts, little secrets, and even hopes and aspirations.
Verbal abuse, such as yelling at your kids, calling them names, putting them down and constantly making threats, may cause emotional trauma and can even affect their academic and social skills.
Insulting and belittling your child by calling them “stupid”, “worthless” or “useless”, will affect their self-esteem and ability to trust and form healthy relationships in future.
Making threats about bodily harm – whether or not the action is actually carried out – can also make your child fearful and distrustful of you.
Although it's hard to pinpoint the exact cause of childhood depression, experts say too much pressure and stress can overwhelm a young person’s coping abilities, causing them to slip into depression.
Signs to watch out for include any mood changes, increased irritability or anger, loss of pleasure in doing things they love, expression of self-blame and hopelessness, change in eating and sleeping patterns, difficulty concentrating, social withdrawal, sudden outbursts or crying, and even thoughts of death or suicide.
When your child misbehaves, scores poorly in their exam, or does something you disapprove of, you might be tempted to reach for that cane or mete out punishment you deem necessary.
But studies have shown that corporal punishment can affect the brain’s ability to learn self-control, encourage aggression, delinquency, and even cause mental health problems. Caning, spanking or hitting your child devalues your role as a parent as well as your parent-child relationship and can cause harmful long-term effects down the road.
Amidst all the school work, tuition classes, extra-curricular activities, homework, and other various plans scheduled for them, when will kids be able to just be kids?
Some research has found that a lot of students in Singapore complain about their overwhelming workload, suffer from sleep deprivation and also struggle to have a balanced life.
Although it's important your child does well in his or her studies, it's just as essential for children to play to help with their social competence and emotional development.
It's fine to encourage and guide your children so they can succeed and do well in life, but remember not to go too far and push them over the edge and just let them enjoy their childhood.
Dew is a teacher, theatre practitioner and playwright who is raising her daughter to know that anything boys can do, girls can do better!
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