Working mum, Nadine Yap seems to excel in many areas including parenting to a T and taking on roles in a male-dominated industry. Find out how she finds time to speak up on societal issues.
Nadine Yap has a solid pedigree. Educated at Raffles Girls’ School, Raffles Junior College and then Harvard University, she is a technologist who came back to Singapore after a decade of living and working in the United States.
In a candid conversation with theAsianparent, Nadine gave us a peek into her style of parenting her girls, 10-year-old Alexa and seven-year-old Zoe, excelling at her male-dominated work place and her involvement in Singapore’s politics as a member of the Democratic Progressive Party (DPP).
The following interview has been edited for clarity and brevity.
How would you describe your parenting style?
I am definitely not a Tiger Mom, but we have a certain structure in place for our kids so we’re not super relaxed.
We have lists and schedules on the wall that the kids follow. So, if they don’t want to be late for school, they make sure they pack their stuff on time.
My younger daughter Zoe, is very scheduled-oriented; she’s like my little reminder if we are running late. The girls have to fill their own water bottles, pack their snacks, and make sure their homework is in their bags before school. We have lists, as they are helpful for my older daughter Alexa, who has Attention Deficit Disorder (ADD).
When they come home, it’s always homework first, then half an hour of reading on their own followed by screen time for half an hour.
My preference is to kick them out of the house for outdoor play. Hopefully they forget about screen time when they are absorbed in play or in their books. Then at 8:30 pm, they get ready for bed and we have some reading time together.
How do your kids get along with each other? Any sibling rivalry?
They play well together in general, and they miss each other when one of them is away for a period of time.
If there is a conflict, we basically say “you need to work it out yourselves because we can’t solve everything for you. You need to be okay with my decision or fight it out on your own.”
I’d prefer to let them be independent and capable of working things out for themselves and I’m here to help them develop those skills.
What are your thoughts on child discipline?
We are very clear with our girls about what is expected from them and what is unacceptable behaviour as well as the consequences of going against those expectations.
I use a lot of positive language, but I’m also extremely clear and firm with them. If they cross the line, I’ll very calmly explain the consequences of what happens immediately. Supernanny inspired, for sure!
However, it is important to understand the child and react accordingly.
What is it like parenting two children who are poles apart in character? Find that out and also learn how Nadine Yap juggles her role as a working mum on the next page.