Being a mother is akin to signing up for an adventurous roller coaster ride. While you experience the joys of giving and receiving unbridled love from your little one, it also comes with its fair share of challenges including lack of sleep, anxiety, career breaks and the list goes on.
But those who have walked the path would also agree that the joy of being a mother is irreplaceable.
In fact, there is nothing in the world that can prepare you for this role titled “Mum.” Becoming a mother is surely a monumental step in life, and it needs to be celebrated!
For 29-year-old Anna Mukhtar, giving birth and becoming a mother has always been her dream, so this explains why she is already a mum to seven kids.
The Joy Of Being A Mother To 7 Children, As Shared By A Mum
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Anna tells theAsianparent that if given a chance, she would like to give birth again. She hopes her dream of having 10 children will come true someday.
Her eldest child is now 12-years-old and her second is 11-years-old. The age of her third child is nine and the fourth one is around seven-years-old. Her fifth child is aged four and her sixth child is only three-years-old.
Unfortunately, she lost her seventh child recently, who was just 14-days-old. The baby died due to complications in her liver, heart and kidney.
Anna, who got married early, has no regrets in her life and says that she is a happy wife and loves being a mum to all her children.
Well, Anna’s story is no different from a lot of women who marry early and choose to become young mothers. While it may be common for women to choose careers over children today, many experts still believe that experiencing the joy of motherhood before you hit the 30-year mark may still be a good decision.
Advantages Of Marrying Early And Experiencing The Joy Of Being A Mother
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Get to enjoy marital life
When you marry early, you are not under pressure to have kids anytime soon. The first few years of the marriage can be spent in complete bliss understanding each other. Plus, if you love to travel, this is also the time to indulge in it, guilt-free.
More adaptable and adjusting
When you’re young, you are more adaptable and ready to adjust. A marriage works when both partners are tolerant and understanding towards each other. When you are settled and as you age, it gets difficult for you to make compromises.
Young parents are way “cooler”
When you become parents young, you are more likely to befriend your children easily. The emotional gap bridges faster and they trust you as a parent who “understands them.”
However, when you are young, your maturity level is low and hence, you may make hasty decisions. But, don’t forget that marriage is a big decision and you should take the leap only if you are confident.
3 Tips To A Happy Married Life
Say ‘No’ to adultery
One of the bases of a good relationship is honesty. Spend time with each other and celebrate little joys and achievements. Even when you are busy in your respective lives and careers, always take time for each other.
Avoid cheating on your partner. Remember, adultery will not only cost you your marriage but will also affect the lives of your children. If you feel your relationship is not working, it is best to talk and part amicably.
Maturity and responsibility need to go hand-in-hand in a marriage. Before you decide to start a family, you should look at your finances, savings and all the other financial constraints seriously. Work on your savings and spend money wisely.
For instance, if you are planning to go on a big holiday, you should curtail your other expenses for the next few months. Proper planning and well management of the finances are a crucial part of any marriage.
Keep your family in the centre
Try to keep your family at the forefront of your decisions. When you prioritise your family and their happiness, you not build a strong foundation, but also a strong bond.
This article was originally published in theAsianparent Malaysia and has been republished with permission.
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