Man beats up wife in front of toddler: STOP domestic violence now
NOTHING justifies this. Nothing.
We often hear about horrifying physical abuse stories or seen husband beating wife images. But an actual video of a beating is much more distressing – especially when it involves a child. A recently uploaded 50-second video from Vietnam shows just that, and it is heartbreaking enough to make us want to cry and ask WHY? What did this mum do to deserve this bashing?
A recent video clip showing a husband brutally beating up his wife has spread like wildfire on the internet. Netizens express horror and disbelief at the sheer brutality of the beating.
The distressing video was first shared in a Facebook group.
In the video, the man initially punches his wife several times. The woman then falls onto the ground, but the man doesn’t stop. He stomps the back of her legs and chest, and even kicks her stomach really hard a few times.
The woman curls into a ball on the ground, in pain from the torment.
After the damage is done, the man gives the woman a warning. A toddler runs past.
The man ignores the woman who remains crying in pain as she lies on the ground. Instead, he approaches the doorstep, where he carries a baby, allegedly their child. It’s highly possible the child was witness to his mother’s brutal beating.
The short, 50-second video can be viewed here. Be warned that it contains distressing content – viewer discretion is advised.
The shocking video clip has caused a heated debate among social media users. Most reacted negatively, stating that the man was violent and merciless.
“God, he even wore his shoes while kicking her belly – that’s really cruel! It’s hard to know who’s a good husband by appearance – no one could foresee such a violent husband like this. If I married a man like this, I’d rather stay single,” comments one user.
“Even if I don’t understand the reason why, and even if the woman committed a few mistakes, I don’t think the husband has the right to beat the the wife. He isn’t God, and whatever it was that made him angry cannot be solved by violence – which is in itself already morally questionable,” says another.
However, and of concern, some people argue back that most viewers are outsiders who lack the understanding of the couple’s lives.
They point out that we don’t have the right to criticise the lives of other people’s families. It’s entirely possible that the woman in the video made a huge mistake which the man couldn’t accept, and in a fit of anger, beat her up.
“We don’t know what their issue is. The video only shows a man beating his wife – and we immediately conclude that the man is wrong. What if the wife had an affair, left home, and refused to take of her kids? If that was the case then I don’t the husband was wrong at all,” a Facebook user analysed.
Currently, there has been no further information about this video.
But one thing is clear. NOTHING justifies physical violence of the kind we see in this video. Even if the women cheated or did something else to make the man angry, beating her up in front of their child is not the way to sort out the problem.
Just imagine the mental trauma on the toddler, seeing their mother beaten up and broken like this?
It’s shameful. It’s shocking. We hope the woman got away from this man, and that his behaviour catches the eye of the authorities there.
A Singapore mum once fell into a vicious cycle while in a toxic relationship with her partner (read her story here). She experienced all forms of abuse, and has this advice for women in the same situation:
- Do not keep silent.
- Do not accept what you know is wrong.
- Trust your gut and instincts when they alert you.
- Trust your friends because they can see what you can’t.
- Exit a toxic relationship as soon as you can.
- Acknowledge your weaknesses and be quick to seek help. Organisations like AWARE, PAVE and PPIS help empower women with counselling and courses.
- And lastly, if you believe in any faith, pray and ask Him for help and guidance. The veil between God and a person who’s been wronged is removed. Therefore your prayers will be answered. He listens and He will guide and help you.
A guide prepared by the Association of Women, Action and Research (AWARE) explains how to confront family violence in a step-by-step manner. Here are several things you can do if you find yourself in an abusive relationship.
The numbers below are a good place to start if you need advice due to a toxic relationship:
- Police – 999
- AWARE Helpline – 1800 777 5555 (Mon–Fri, 3 pm– 9.30 pm)
- Immediately visit the doctor in case of serious physical injuries.
- Remember to lay it all out for your doctor – don’t try to mask the real reason behind your injuries with excuses like “It’s an accident.”
- Do remember that your personal information is secure. The law ensures that medical reports are private.
- If you do experience abuse and find it a serious issue, you will still find visiting a doctor beneficial. A doctor’s medical report can help you if decide to apply for a Personal Protection Order (PPO).
- Retain your receipt for the medical services as evidence.
- Lodging a police report is beneficial even if you don’t want to take legal action, as police reports may help if you do apply for legal protection.
- To start, visit a police service counter – any will do – including neighbourhood police posts.
- Photocopy the police report so that you can refer to it later.
- Keep check of eyewitness accounts, texts, emails or recordings that could possible indicate forms of harassment that isn’t so obvious, such as emotional abuse or physical abuse.
- If you need someone to talk to, you can always visit a counsellor who can guide you better.
- Counselling may also help aggressors admit that they’re wrong and change for the better.
- Here’s a list of organisations which provide counselling services:
- Family Service Centres (FSCs): There are 47 FSCs in Singapore. Please call ComCare on 1800 222 0000 to be connected to the nearest centre.
- These Family Service Centres specialise in counselling related to family violence:
- If you find yourself having no way out, or no other person to turn to, a crisis shelter is your last resort.
- For Crisis Shelter admission, you need a referral from:
- Any Family Service Center or hospital social workers
- Note that you can stay in a crisis shelter home for no longer than three months.
If you ever find yourself in a position of family violence or physical abuse, it may help to apply for a Personal Protection Order (PPO).
A PPO is an order issued from court, should it be necessary to prevent additional harm from befalling you. Should the aggressor break the order and injure you again, you need to lodge a police report – after which the aggressor may be arrested and charged for the offence.
In Singapore, a PPO can be applied for in the Family Court in person or through a Family Lawyer for ease and peace of mind.
It includes any of the following family members:
- Spouse or ex-spouse
- Child, including adopted or step child
- Any other relative
There are three different types of orders that the Court can make for protection from family violence. They are:
- Protection Order: a general order that prevents the abuser from using violence against the victim.
- Expedited Order (EO): a temporary order that lasts for 28 days from the date it was served to the abuser, generally granted depending on the urgency of the victim’s situation.
- Domestic Exclusion Order (DEO): an order that excludes or restricts the abuser from entering the victim’s residence or parts of the residence.
The Court gives these orders when violence has been committed or is likely to be committed, making it necessary for the protection of the family member.