It’s no secret that women can fake orgasms. The moaning and groaning can all be part of an act. In fact, studies reveal that about 80 percent of women fake orgasm before climax, only to get the whole act over with? Yes, you read that right! All that moaning might just be hogwash.

If you think that your wife is faking orgasms, it’s time to move from what you like to what she likes. Till then, faking orgasms will continue, and here’s why!

Why Do Women Fake Orgasm?

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1. To please the partner

More often than not, women fake orgasms to please their partners. They feel that it acts as an ego-booster to his confidence. Plus, let’s be honest, when there is a man on top and a few seconds away from coming, it feels weird to lay there with a blank face.

2. Insecurity is a culprit

Women fake orgasms also because they don’t want to upset their partners. They may want to avoid the unpleasant consequences of a disappointing lovemaking session. I mean who wants to hear “It was appalling and tedious” after the “So how was it for you?” question!

3. Turns her on

Some women fake orgasms because it turns them on. How many times have you tried faking an orgasm because you wanted to arouse yourself? The mantra is to fake it till you make it (for real)!

4. She’s just tired, guys!

Yes, sometimes sex is a chore. Since she does not want to dampen your mood, she may decide to go with the flow. And there’s a high chance that she will fake an orgasm quick so it is over soon.

Now, if you are wondering if that moaning in the night was fake or real, you’re not alone. The good news is that you can change this.

How To Have A Healthy Sex Life, Without Fake Orgasms!

1. Communicate with honesty

Ask your partner why they may have been faking orgasms. The best way to make sex pleasurable is by being honest and communicative. You can also offer solutions or suggestions to make it better for her. When talking, don’t forget to reassure her of your love and desire to work towards her pleasure too. No more fake orgasms

2. Guide your partner

You can guide your partner and share each other’s desires and fantasies. Try new poses or even rooms in the house for that matter. Guide her to also understand why she needs to be open about her fantasies too.

3. Physically help your wife have orgasm

Masters and Johnson wrote a book in which he stated that there are four stages of the sexual response:

Excitement. Initially being turned on.
Plateau. Repetitive motion that feels pleasurable.
Orgasm. The burst of pleasure, and release.
Resolution. The refractory period.

How about you give this four stages a shot and see if it helps avoid fake orgasms?

4. Spend more time on foreplay

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Foreplay is important to her. Your wife may need plenty of physical and emotional stimulation to feel aroused. So go ahead and explore the right way so she does not need to fake orgasms.

Mental stimulation: For some women, mental stimulation works. You will be surprised that just a sexy note can sometimes do wonders.
Touch her gently: Sometimes a gentle touch can create sexual tension before you go any further. Hug her, hold her hand, or touch her where she feels the most aroused (you should know this by now!).
Talk dirty: If your wife likes talking dirty, go ahead and try that. Communicate in between to see if it is making her comfortable and she wants to go ahead with it.
Sex toys: You can use sex toys like a vibrator to arouse her before you get to the main act.

5. Know her spots well

There are two places on her body that are critical to female orgasms. If you learn to stimulate them you can help her achieve orgasm.

The clitoris This tiny organ has a high concentration of nerve endings and can be found near the top of the vulva. You will need to touching or lick the clitoris to make her feel aroused.
The G-spot: This other orgasmic area is located inside the vagina. It’s a bundle of nerve endings about two inches up from the pubic bone on the inner, upper wall of the vagina. Explore different techniques to stimulate her G-spot and ask your partner which one she likes best.

Signs That Your Wife Isn’t Faking, Anymore!

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Orgasm helps to trigger emotional releases or a sense of euphoria. And if you tried all the ideas we shared, chances are you on the right track. But how can you know that there aren’t fake orgasms? Here are some signs which you will experience when you both have a real orgasm.

Tingly sensation: When you climax, you will first experience a tingly sensation and then the muscles begin to contract.
Body shakes: You may also feel that your body will shake when you orgasm, especially the lower body.
Heartbeat increases: The more closer you are to your orgasm, the more your heartbeat will rise.

To avoid fake orgasms, it’s important to be open and communicate with each other. A woman’s body is like a hidden mystery, there is a lot to explore, not only for your partner but also for you.

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