There are many who come to me and ask questions like “Don’t you feel guilty leaving her in the daycare for the whole day?”
I am a working mum and it goes without saying that I am the subject of attention of every aunt, stay at home mum and just about anyone in the building that I live in, even beyond. Reason? I have chosen to continue my job after I became a mother and send my child to the daycare.
There are many who come to me and ask questions like “Don’t you feel guilty leaving her in the daycare for the whole day?”. And then there are some who would say nothing but give your daughter that sympathetic look which simply says “poor girl has to stay in the daycare whole day”.
First things first, how I plan to bring up my child is none of their business. Secondly, I would like to set the record straight once and for all. Yes, I leave my daughter at the daycare and I am happy to do that. I have no guilt whatsoever in doing so and if you still want to hear about it, here are my reasons for it:
#1 I am ambitious
Yes, I am ambitious and I want to be successful in life. Is there anything wrong in that? Does me being a mother act as an obstacle in my career path? No, it doesn’t.
In fact, I have become a stronger and a more focused person after motherhood happened to me. My daughter has taught me to be more patient, more thoughtful and more understanding than I was before she was born. She has made me a stronger woman and I am thankful to God that he gave me a wonderful daughter like her.
And the last thing I would want to do would be to hold her responsible for not being able to chase my dreams. I don’t want her to be a subject of my frustration, I want to love her unconditionally, without any baggage.
#2 The same rules don’t apply to the father
When I was looking for a job, every other person under the sun asked me just one question—who will be taking care of your daughter when you’re at work? I got so irritated with the attitude that in the next interview I simply asked back—do you ask the same questions to the father?
Honestly, does anyone ever ask the man how does he plan to take care of his child when he’s at work? Is he not an equal parent? Is the child not his responsibly as well? Why target the woman each time?
And, I am happy that my husband agrees with me and supports me like no one else. So when my daughter falls sick or if she has vacations or the daycare is closed, we take turns to take leaves from work. Isn’t that a great learning for my daughter as well.
Read on to know about other reasons…