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“I ended up marrying a man that I barely knew and didn’t love”

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"Honestly, I can’t remember my wedding day. Whenever I look at photo’s I don’t recognize myself," says Haritha Kandabattu

Life in India can be really hard for girls, particularly those who live with parents who overlook their daughter's happiness in the name of obsolete customs and traditions.

I ended up marrying a man I barely knew...

Haritha Kandabattu, like most Indian girls, ended up marrying under pressure and to a man she barely knew. Her parents refused to let her pursue her ambitions and married her off to a stranger.

"I have always been a very ambitious student and after I graduated l wanted to focus on my career as an engineer. My parents kept pushing me and slowly the atmosphere at home was changing and my father barely spoke to me anymore. The tension became unbearable and at some point I couldn’t take it anymore so I gave in. I ended up marrying a man that I barely knew and didn’t love," writes Haritha in a post published on the Humans Of Amsterdam Facebook page.

Haritha doesn't even remember her wedding day and she says that she doesn't recognise herself when she looks at her wedding album.

"Honestly, I can’t remember my wedding day. Whenever I look at photo’s I don’t recognise myself. After the wedding, we went on our honeymoon. From the start, we had no connection and it was very obvious that we both weren’t in love," she writes in the post.

Unfortunately, Haritha's in-laws were very controlling and so was her husband.

"My in-laws were very controlling and I was forced to give my salary to them. They demanded I would contact my father and ask him for a dowry. My husband turned out just to be as controlling as his parents. He would check my phone regularly and accused me multiple times of cheating on him. I was a software engineer with Nike and whenever I would work late, my husband would ask me who I was having sex with. It was humiliating," she writes.

Continue reading on the next page to read how Haritha ran away to Amsterdam!

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