“I wanted to die in the first few seconds of breastfeeding my baby”

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Have you heard about D-MER, the intense condition than affects some breastfeeding women with negative feelings? Read about it here.

D-MER management

According to information from D-MER.org, the management of this condition differs according to the severity of the woman’s experience.

Mild D-MER

Mums with mild D-MER often find it much easier to manage the symptoms once they know exactly what they are dealing with. In other words, education about the condition helps such mums a lot.

Moderate D-MER

Education also helps these mums manage their symptoms better. If this doesn’t work, then such mums are encouraged to track their D-MER so they get a better understanding of what triggers the condition (e.g. stress, lack of sleep, caffeine) and what helps ease the feeling (e.g. more rest, drinking more water, exercise).

Severe D-MER

Women who experience severe and extreme feelings related to D-MER should seek medical advise without delay. Often, treatment involves prescription drugs that increase dopamine levels. However, certain natural remedies, such as eating one’s own placenta (via placenta encapsulation), taking vitamin B complex, or rhodiola (a herb, also known as roseroot/ golden root) supplements may also help.

As always, medical advice must be sought before commencing any medication, whether prescription-based or natural. 

More important facts about D-MER

  • D-MER is not a dislike of breastfeeding. In fact, women with the condition generally say they enjoy breastfeeding except for the few seconds/ minutes of dysphoria.
  • D-MER related feelings will be experienced by a mum with the condition just before letdown and lasts for a few seconds to a couple of minutes.
  • Depending on the intensity of the D-MER, a mother can experience negative feelings during just the first letdown in a feeding session, or in all subsequent letdowns.
  • D-MER is not related to nipple contact or dislike of the sensation of nipple tugging.

Mums, if you are experiencing any of the feelings associated with D-MER as described in this article, it’s important that you speak to a doctor without delay.




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